Anonymous wrote:Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

We are social drinkers so we don't mind our boys to have a drink when home, but I agree with your husband. For example, my husband doesn't have earrings or tattoos so our boys know not to get any until they are respectfully out of the home...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

Follow DH's rules.

We only drink a countable number of drinks per year, 1 or 2 in front of our kids.

Parental example is very tied to outcomes.

Alcohol is a highly optional part of life and is not needed to have fun. Many beverages are equally refreshing.

We allow our 19 year old to have a drink or two at home but I agree with PP, follow DH's rules "house rules".

What's the point? If he were with a big group of family and everyone was having a beer, I guess I wouldn't think it was a huge deal. But if nobody else is drinking, yes, it seems weird to buy beer so your underage kid can drink it. It is totally possible to enjoy a game without alcohol.

Anonymous wrote:It’s your house, if DH says no then it’s a no. It’s illegal too

Not illegal for under 21 to drink in the home with parents, at least in MD.

I don't have a problem with 19 yr old having a beer at home, or 16 yr old drinking champagne for like NYE celebration. I know my 19 yr old drinks at college. And I am not a drinker, at all.

But, to be respectful of your DH, I would say no, however, I would ask why your DH is against it. If he knows your DS is drinking in college, and he is an otherwise good person and gets good grades, what is the issue?

As stated, in many states, it is not illegal for < 21 to drink in the home. so, why is your DH against it?

IMO, if you teach your kid to drink responsibly, there is less likelihood of your kid over indulging.

Anonymous wrote:Not in our house, not until you're 21

+1

Not in our house, not until you're 21

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course geez some of you are seriously repressed.

This can only be true if you think things are more fun when buzzed.

To me, things are the same amount of fun when I'm buzzed. I just lose motor coordination and can't drive.

good for you.

Some like a buzz. Some like the taste. Some like both.

Bunch of Puritans in here.

Actually yes. I am descended from Puritans, a Women's Christian Temperance Union activist, and a severely alcoholic deadbeat dad (many generations ago).

Of course

Who is he watching the football game with? Just your DH, who doesn't drink? Friends? Other relatives?

At that age, I'd be fine with a social beer in a group of family/friends. If the DS needs a beer to enjoy the game even though he's only hanging out with Dad who doesn't drink, or watching by himself, that seems problematic.

It’s your house, if DH says no then it’s a no. It’s illegal too

I've let my DS (18) drink with our family in moderation. He's proven he can have a few beers on vacation or during special occasions so I don't see why not especially if he's drinking at college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

Follow DH's rules.

We only drink a countable number of drinks per year, 1 or 2 in front of our kids.

Parental example is very tied to outcomes.

Alcohol is a highly optional part of life and is not needed to have fun. Many beverages are equally refreshing.

C'mon -- you gotta have more than 2 fingers?
Surely you can count to 10 at least?

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Anonymous wrote:I would be okay with this and use it as a time to show moderation and that you don’t have to be wasted to have fun.

That moderation myth has been debunked. Only liquor industry and alcoholics are sticking to it.

No, it has not.

Anonymous wrote:It's not a matter of personal preference anymore, its a proven matter of scientific studies now.

Absolute nonsense. Correlation is not causation.

Anonymous wrote:I would be okay with this and use it as a time to show moderation and that you don’t have to be wasted to have fun.

That moderation myth has been debunked. Only liquor industry and alcoholics are sticking to it.