Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:26     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
I have ADHD and I'm allergic to people who care if I can remember their birthday. Sorry. I'm a great and generous friend to people who don't expect me to text back within an hour or make a big deal out of their birthdays past age 25.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:25     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
I'm sorry OP, but if you are the one who is always organizing maybe the celebrations aren't that important to everyone else? I would stop, or cut back. Then next year organize something for yourself (or have your DH throw you a party if you feel weird organizing for yourself).
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:22     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel you need to have everyone make a fuss over you? Adults that I know don't celebrate brithdays asides from close family.


Nobody needs to make a "fuss." Are you part of a friend group? Do you go out to group dinners for birthdays? I am mystified that this concept seems foreign to you.


Not PP but I haven’t been to a birthday dinner with a “friend group” since I was in my 20s.

I feel like this is one of those places where there is a divide between those who drink a lot and those who don’t.


oh dear.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:22     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:Are you on Facebook? That’s literally the only way I would know anyone’s birthday 🤣

Happy birthday op!!!


+1

OP, what about next year sending out an Evite for an open house? People can pop in and out. Low pressure and you can feel celebrated.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:20     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel you need to have everyone make a fuss over you? Adults that I know don't celebrate brithdays asides from close family.


Nobody needs to make a "fuss." Are you part of a friend group? Do you go out to group dinners for birthdays? I am mystified that this concept seems foreign to you.


Not PP but I haven’t been to a birthday dinner with a “friend group” since I was in my 20s.

I feel like this is one of those places where there is a divide between those who drink a lot and those who don’t.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:05     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
The birthday after my mom died, no one remembered mine. Like....no one. Not even my dad. That was a terrible birthday because my mom would have remembered.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:04     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
How old are you? Most grown adults don't expect everyone around them to remember their birthday. I'm happy if my kids, spouse and siblings do. Hell, my parents don't even remember some years. Grow up.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:00     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Are you on Facebook? That’s literally the only way I would know anyone’s birthday 🤣

Happy birthday op!!!
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 19:00     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel you need to have everyone make a fuss over you? Adults that I know don't celebrate brithdays asides from close family.


Nobody needs to make a "fuss." Are you part of a friend group? Do you go out to group dinners for birthdays? I am mystified that this concept seems foreign to you.


DP. Yes, a few of us in our friend group have birthdays from late January to early March. We try and get together sometime between then for lunch. No one actually remembers anyone's actual birth date. Because the point is to hang out and catch up, not be a princess birthday girl at 40.


Why are you arguing about someone's hurt feelings and trying to invalidate them? Does this give you pleasure? It's very sad.


Because OP's hurt feelings are her own, to own. Sometimes we all need a dose of reality to calibrate our expectations. Yes, even the birthday girl needs a reality check sometimes.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:46     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel you need to have everyone make a fuss over you? Adults that I know don't celebrate brithdays asides from close family.


Nobody needs to make a "fuss." Are you part of a friend group? Do you go out to group dinners for birthdays? I am mystified that this concept seems foreign to you.


DP. Yes, a few of us in our friend group have birthdays from late January to early March. We try and get together sometime between then for lunch. No one actually remembers anyone's actual birth date. Because the point is to hang out and catch up, not be a princess birthday girl at 40.


Why are you arguing about someone's hurt feelings and trying to invalidate them? Does this give you pleasure? It's very sad.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:45     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Don't expect anyone to reciprocate. If you do, stop organizing others' bday celebrations.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:40     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
OP, happy birthday! Try not to take it personally. I am really, really bad about birthdays, and some (many?) of my friends don't acknowledge my birthday, but if it were a big deal to me, I'd organize something. It is not a reflection of you or how much they care about you.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:38     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel you need to have everyone make a fuss over you? Adults that I know don't celebrate brithdays asides from close family.


Nobody needs to make a "fuss." Are you part of a friend group? Do you go out to group dinners for birthdays? I am mystified that this concept seems foreign to you.


DP. Yes, a few of us in our friend group have birthdays from late January to early March. We try and get together sometime between then for lunch. No one actually remembers anyone's actual birth date. Because the point is to hang out and catch up, not be a princess birthday girl at 40.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:37     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:I will never understand any person over 30 who gets bothered when people don't remember their birthday. Other than messages from family, I would never expect anyone else to remember my birthday. That is way too much narcissistic drama.


A birthday celebration is not narcissistic drama. Or, if it is, you be hangin' with the wrong people.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2024 18:36     Subject: Nobody remembered my birthday
Anonymous wrote:Aw I'm sorry. I try to always wish people a happy birthday. It costs nothing to make someone feel a little special.

Happy belated birthday!


Thank you