I wouldn't throw money at private coaches, but I would continue everything rec for as long as the kid enjoys the activities. Since your DH went through similar challenges, he could stop proving himself and do something to help instead. For example, he could make some rules to make the game more challenging for himself (scoring only from a larger distance for example).

If your son enjoys it, it’s worth it. I have older boys now but both were low tone. Both loved sports. One wasn’t the most athletic but he had a great attitude and the drive to work hard. We did private lessons for baseball which was his sport of choice. He didn’t play super competitively but his coaches loved him. And he was a naturally fast kid which earned him the respect of teammates. He stopped as HS started but it was great for him socially and just to keep him active. The other had motor planning issues on top of hypotonia. We were given a pretty grim prognosis. I’m glad we didn’t listen. He insisted on trying everything and through OT and lots of weekends/evenings with my husband, he was able to keep up. Some sports he just held his ground but with others he surprisingly excelled. Private lessons proved pivotal due to his motor planning issue. He needed tons of reps. It is absolutely worth it if your child enjoys it and you can afford it.

Rec sports are not terribly expensive. If your kid is enjoying an activity, socializing there, and building the habit of exercising then I think it's a great thing, whether or not he'll grow up to be an athlete.

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is low muscle tone in a prepubescent kid

It's a neurological condition where the percent of muscle fibers in a person's body that are tense at rest is low. It has nothing to do with how strong or "toned" someone's muscles are. It is a feature of many disabilities such as Down syndrome, and sometimes ASD, but the cause isn't always known.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. If I let him choose, of course he would rather just stay home for screentime. So far, he enjoys those recreational sports, and I decide to introduce him with tennis with group lessons. Tennis will be something new to him. I think pp is right that I think one day he may quit basketball since it is the most challenging to him.

I forgot to mention that DH is low muscle tone as well, but he managed to do cross county for 3 years in high school and did college basketball. I don't know how he did it, and I wonder if the cross county trained him to be better. However, he told me the cross county experiences ruined his knees because he used to practice day & night by himself throughout the years. He feels them these few years, but that could be also aging since he is in his 40s. I am not sure if it is worth it. My son is not interested in jogging but maybe I can encourage him when he gets older.

DH is low muscle tone and played college basketball? Like beyond intra mural?

Didnt read the entire thread but I think sports helps build community in kids and provides other opportunities than going pro. Maybe your kid isn’t great but do you think Andy Reid ever played pro? Probably not.

It’s worth it as long as your son is enjoying it. My rec level son had private lessons and played two different sports through freshman year of HS, because he wanted to and enjoyed it. We always viewed his private lessons as more of personal training for his self confidence because we could afford them and he enjoyed the one on one time.

Puberty changes everything. He got stronger, but not faster and not more athletic. We always took his lead with what he wanted to do.

I think social reasons is a good reason to continue as long as your son is still finding the teams enjoyable. Activity is a good thing.

Swimming

Swimming or golf

Swimming if he enjoys, sounds perfect. Most clubs have different levels of practice. At the less competitive levels, meet participation is optional.

I have a DD with health challenges, and this is what we do. She doesn't always love going, but is happy afterwards, and i feel it is necessary for the health benefits. otherwise she'd just be at home on a screen.

Op here. If I let him choose, of course he would rather just stay home for screentime. So far, he enjoys those recreational sports, and I decide to introduce him with tennis with group lessons. Tennis will be something new to him. I think pp is right that I think one day he may quit basketball since it is the most challenging to him.

I forgot to mention that DH is low muscle tone as well, but he managed to do cross county for 3 years in high school and did college basketball. I don't know how he did it, and I wonder if the cross county trained him to be better. However, he told me the cross county experiences ruined his knees because he used to practice day & night by himself throughout the years. He feels them these few years, but that could be also aging since he is in his 40s. I am not sure if it is worth it. My son is not interested in jogging but maybe I can encourage him when he gets older.