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Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Nobody decent goes to the gym to meet a date. Anybody at the gym looking for a date is a creeper.

You go to the gym to work on yourself. Period. Go literally anywhere else for your date-hunting.

The gym is sacred. If you're there to pick people up, you're a jerk.

And yes, this applies to all genders/configurations going to the gym as date bait. Gross.

Meh, my gay male friends meet hookups all the time at their gyms.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Nobody decent goes to the gym to meet a date. Anybody at the gym looking for a date is a creeper.

You go to the gym to work on yourself. Period. Go literally anywhere else for your date-hunting.

The gym is sacred. If you're there to pick people up, you're a jerk.

I agree if you are going somewhere specifically to pick people up it is yuck. But OP didn't say that -- he said it happened after a long flirty period.

I don't think the gym is sacred. I don't think a church is sacred. I don't think anything is sacred. You meet somebody you are into, you have a connections with, ask them out.

I think men CAN be disgusting when the push the issue after having been told "No, thank you" but that is an entirely different issue.

Nothing wrong with gym pick ups but seems likely interest just faded; could have been married woman just looking to flirt, or someone dating around.

Had something similar happen where I asked out a single older woman who I informally taught a workout routine when she was struggling with form, and I was flat out rejected, so sort of guessing in your case the target is playing the field and you’re not totally dropped.

FWIW in my case I followed up the rejection with a suggestive drunk text and it didn’t help 😂, though we somehow remain friends on social media years later so I still hold out some hope !

Possible answers:

1)She wasn’t ever into you romantically
2)You came on too strong
3)You said or did something that was a turnoff (overly sexual messages? Cheesy lines?)
4)She doesn’t see you romantically but if she’s desperate enough for attention or a distraction (like a fun date that you organize and pay for) she might hang out; but she probably won’t sleep with you
5)You’re super pushy and maybe creepy so she was acting polite so you wouldn’t kill her.

Most men think women want to sleep with them when they are just being friendly.

Anonymous wrote:It's not about you OP. Three things may have happened. Either someone else got to her first and she's now with that guy, or she was already in a relationship and looking to cheat, or she is just the typical female-at-the-gym narcissist trolling the gym for attention, which you supplied.

There should be men-only gyms to stop this sort of thing from happening.

I disagree. If you don't get too caught up in it some level of gym flirting can really boost your T for the next set!

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Your best way going forward is to act like things are normal. Don't bring up the DMs or asking her out. When you see her smile and say hello. Only make short small talk and go from there. If you try too hard she will back away even more. And 100% DO NOT DM more anymore. You need to act like you asking her out was 100% not a big deal.

This is good advice. Do this. I bet she'll come back to you in a few weeks. Let her re-initiate.

She must have been utterly unimpressed after seeing you wear gray sweats at the gym.

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Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Nobody decent goes to the gym to meet a date. Anybody at the gym looking for a date is a creeper.

You go to the gym to work on yourself. Period. Go literally anywhere else for your date-hunting.

The gym is sacred. If you're there to pick people up, you're a jerk.

And yes, this applies to all genders/configurations going to the gym as date bait. Gross.

Sounds like neither of you to the gym regularly. If you did, you would know that you see the same people over and over again and strike up basic banter. It’s not different than any other public place people frequent regularly. If people don’t want to talk, then can easily avoid it with earbuds, looking the other way, etc.

Anonymous wrote:She’s waiting for the d pic

Don’t. You’ll get blocked

It’s too close to the holidays. She’s wrapping stuff up with her ex and she may contact you by late Feb at the latest if she’s kinda interested. She doesn’t want to have a whole conversation about the dude she’s ending things with and it’s not a clean break.

Probably

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Nobody decent goes to the gym to meet a date. Anybody at the gym looking for a date is a creeper.

You go to the gym to work on yourself. Period. Go literally anywhere else for your date-hunting.

The gym is sacred. If you're there to pick people up, you're a jerk.

And yes, this applies to all genders/configurations going to the gym as date bait. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Nobody decent goes to the gym to meet a date. Anybody at the gym looking for a date is a creeper.

You go to the gym to work on yourself. Period. Go literally anywhere else for your date-hunting.

The gym is sacred. If you're there to pick people up, you're a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.

Yeah what’s so gross about meeting someone at the gym?

Anonymous wrote:It's not about you OP. Three things may have happened. Either someone else got to her first and she's now with that guy, or she was already in a relationship and looking to cheat, or she is just the typical female-at-the-gym narcissist trolling the gym for attention, which you supplied.

There should be men-only gyms to stop this sort of thing from happening.

This!

Anonymous wrote:The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

That's a strong reaction. I mean why is it disgusting.