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Anonymous wrote:I can't explain why for the life of me, but I find this word absolutely awful. Maybe it's because it seems like it was invented solely for the purpose of using it as a social media hashtag, or maybe it's because that every time I hear an adult use it I want to ask them if they're actually 14 years old. What's wrong with simply referring to Thanksgiving as Thanksgiving, regardless of whether it's spent with family or friends? Does everything need it's own lame naming convention these days?

It’s not like your feelings are valid. Who cares what you like or don’t like

+1 Although I wish I could be you such that this type of problem is bothering you so that it reaches the level of something you whine about.

Anonymous wrote:Is Friendsgiving the bar night? (Day b4 thanksgiving) Is that what this means?

No. You don’t want to know what the kids call that one.

Anonymous wrote:Went to an awesome one last night. Much better than the real holiday.

+1 We had one last Thursday with 49 people, because we are actually friends and want to celebrate together. It was a potluck. On Thanksgiving, I'll be with dhs side of the family and they are terrible cooks/don't follow safe food handling practices. Next Friday, I will have a Friendsgiving for my little family and 3 friends will be there. We will have a tradional Thanksgiving dinner. These friends spend the actual holiday volunteering, so we look forward to relaxing and eating together.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know the actual origin of the word Friendsgiving, but for me, it was a Thanksgiving meal that we did with people who had no family and were not traveling home for Thanksgiving in college.

We did this on the actual day in grad school 25 years ago—those not traveling got together for a Thanksgiving potluck.

I think the modern version is sweet—just talked to a teen who did Friendsgiving recently. It’s a nice excuse for friends to eat a home-cooked meal together.

I remember the term Friendsgiving being around 25 years ago, it’s certainly not new.

On the other hand, I’ve always hated “dinner party” it reminds me of “playdate”.

I don’t know the actual origin of the word Friendsgiving, but for me, it was a Thanksgiving meal that we did with people who had no family and were not traveling home for Thanksgiving in college.

Since some of us were traveling home for Thanksgiving, we didn’t do it on Thanksgiving day, but it gave those people the opportunity to feel like they had a Thanksgiving.

In my 20s, we did it with a few people that weren’t welcome home for Thanksgiving even though they had a home to go to because they were LGBT or they had another type of falling out.
Of course they were welcome to come to our families Thanksgiving, but many didn’t want to. It was also a time for a bunch of us to get together who felt like family, but weren’t family by blood to provide love and support because we knew for those that were going home for Thanksgiving that weren’t feeling welcome because perhaps they were gay or another type of falling out or they were too poor to travel or they worked on Thanksgiving they knew that they had a loving and supporting family.

Why not just call it a dinner party? Cause it was Thanksgiving food with friends.

I remember friends hosting a Friendsgiving in 2003 so I don’t think it started as a hashtag / social media thing. I thought it was literally from the tv show friends, where the friends always spent Thanksgiving together. But most people couldn’t actually do that on Thanksgiving b/ of family obligations.

Anonymous wrote:We all have our quirks. This is yours.

+1
I love Friendsgiving but understand we all have our pet peeves.

Anonymous wrote:I can't explain why for the life of me, but I find this word absolutely awful. Maybe it's because it seems like it was invented solely for the purpose of using it as a social media hashtag, or maybe it's because that every time I hear an adult use it I want to ask them if they're actually 14 years old. What's wrong with simply referring to Thanksgiving as Thanksgiving, regardless of whether it's spent with family or friends? Does everything need it's own lame naming convention these days?

It’s not like your feelings are valid. Who cares what you like or don’t like

I don’t mind the term generally. But someone asked me once what we did for thanksgiving and I was saying we had friends over and they asked “oh like Friendsgiving?” And I thought they were dense, like spending thanksgiving with friends meant it wasn’t thanksgiving anymore.

I don’t call it Friendsgiving, but I do love the idea. In my family, we have the formal thanksgiving with everyone, then a much more laid back version either Saturday or Sunday with a few neighbors. Great food, and no worrying what might come out of your uncle’s mouth!

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Anonymous wrote:I can't explain why for the life of me, but I find this word absolutely awful. Maybe it's because it seems like it was invented solely for the purpose of using it as a social media hashtag, or maybe it's because that every time I hear an adult use it I want to ask them if they're actually 14 years old. What's wrong with simply referring to Thanksgiving as Thanksgiving, regardless of whether it's spent with family or friends? Does everything need it's own lame naming convention these days?

Do you understand how it works? It’s held on another day than Thanksgiving to share time with your friends. My thought is…how many people have that many close/BFF friends to have a big dinner? Go out with your favorite couples and/or singles and have fun. No cooking, no decorating.

Actually that's the point. It's a reason to have a lot of people together at someone's home for home cooked or potluck food. I feels special (to those who enjoy it) because it's not just going out to a restaurant for a meal.

Is Friendsgiving the bar night? (Day b4 thanksgiving) Is that what this means?

Who cares? I can’t believe there is a thread about this.

It's a dumb name.