Anonymous wrote:The sex part should be fun. But be prepared for how you'll feel if he ghosts you afterward because that unfortunately happens. If that does happen, chalk it up to "hey, at least I've moved on from my ex." There's value in that.

Or maybe she should get to know one beforehand. As in a relationship. Knowing their health history so she doesn't end up with something.

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Anonymous wrote:When I think about divorce and being single again, one thing I’m anxious about is new men seeing my c-section scar. It doesn’t look good at all, despite even having a scar revision.

DH here: While men are visual, this is something that literally zero men care about. It’s simply not an issue.

We need an ama man thread. Is an extra five pounds ok?

Woman here, but this is ridiculous! 5 pounds? I bet there isn't a man alive who gives a crap about that.

Twenty or thirty pounds, maybe. Fifty or 70 pounds, pretty sure most men don't want to go there unless they too are there and they aren't total ass hats with a double standard.

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Anonymous wrote:When I think about divorce and being single again, one thing I’m anxious about is new men seeing my c-section scar. It doesn’t look good at all, despite even having a scar revision.

DH here: While men are visual, this is something that literally zero men care about. It’s simply not an issue.

We need an ama man thread. Is an extra five pounds ok?

Anonymous wrote:Listen, I was with the same dude for 30 years, and I could do it. You’ll be fine. Just be in the right emotional state, feel ready to go there. Don’t force it.

Tell us more what happened with exdh?

The sex part should be fun. But be prepared for how you'll feel if he ghosts you afterward because that unfortunately happens. If that does happen, chalk it up to "hey, at least I've moved on from my ex." There's value in that.

Anonymous wrote:Just bend over…

..and spread 'em.

Just bend over…

The advice I was given and worked well is that if you are enthusiastic and energetic a man will never notice your flaws. If you make it memorable he will never forget.

Anonymous wrote:Men do not care what your body looks like. They are just so happy to be having sex that they don’t even notice.

True dat!

A man.

Find a cute lingerie top that covers your tummy.
They dont have to see everything.

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For goodness sake! A reasonable guy will not be phased by it. My gf has a c section scar and don’t give it a thought. It’s not an issue. If it is then dump him.

Fazed.

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Anonymous wrote:When I think about divorce and being single again, one thing I’m anxious about is new men seeing my c-section scar. It doesn’t look good at all, despite even having a scar revision.

DH here: While men are visual, this is something that literally zero men care about. It’s simply not an issue.

+1
- single guy here

For all you ladies so concerned about sex I would highly recommend if you do find someone you're interested in to thoroughly check them out. I found out this so called stable attractive guy was divorced 3 times. He had all kinds of excuses, but doing an internet search and county records I got to the bottom of it without wasting any more time. Through a user search site I found his profile on FF. Turns out he was Bi, and a very unwell man (groups, men/women, fetishes, yuck).... whose former wives, and a gf of many years discovered after getting involved.

The main concern should be to weed through the losers to find someone stable with a solid foundation. Then go from there. Really, the first one is most difficult, but do your research first.

Anonymous wrote:When I think about divorce and being single again, one thing I’m anxious about is new men seeing my c-section scar. It doesn’t look good at all, despite even having a scar revision.

DH here: While men are visual, this is something that literally zero men care about. It’s simply not an issue.

Insecurity goes boes both ways.
I was an expert at oral, I knew exactly which angle to use to get my wife to O, I knew which speed and depth to use by the look on her face and pace of her breath. I had 19 years to perfect my repertoire.

With a new woman im crazy about and wanting to please I have zero idea what will make her happy. Short answer: we’re nervous and we don’t care if you have scars or cellulite, we want you to have a grand mal orgasm.