Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 10:08     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Well having a kid with obliterated self esteem because they weren't ready for K is probably worse. Sorry, but you'll get through it.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 10:05     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?


Most turn 18, these kids are turning 19.
Let’s stay on topic, OP’s kids are turning 18.


They are 18 all year.


So are mine. Fall babies.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 10:04     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?


Most turn 18, these kids are turning 19.


OP's kids just turned 18, like most Seniors.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 10:01     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.






Parenting a senior in high school is hard for the reasons you list. It has nothing to do with their actual age.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 09:57     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.


Going to college at 19 means an extra year they're legally allowed to drink while away at school. It's one thing to drink illegally once in a while at parties but being able to go to bars and drink whenever they want, and buying beer for everyone else, is not a good idea for many kids, especially since they should be attending classes and doing work. I've seen more than a few kids become alcoholics who got kicked out for poor grades.


I'm anti red shirting for many reasons, but don't recall it ever being a huge challenge for determined kids to find alcohol on campus.


And depending on where you go, you don't even have to be determined to find alcohol. CoughWisconsinCough.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 05:55     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:It’s not their age, it’s senioritis.

and op not managing well.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 04:16     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
It’s not their age, it’s senioritis.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 01:53     Subject: Re:Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
NP. I have a kid who was in this situation (not redshirted, just missed cutoff, 18 for all of senior year), now in college. It wasn’t remotely painful. In fact it was absolutely wonderful. I will always treasure that year.

I have no idea what’s going on in OPs house but it must be severe and pretty bad, and has nothing to do with the age of her kids.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 01:30     Subject: Re:Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
It wasn't a problem for me (50 something year old female who grew up in Virginia), with a fall birthday or for all three of my children who also had a fall birthdays, to be 18 for almost the entirety of our senior years in High School.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:41     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
It wasn't a problem with our twins, born a month early and turned 18 in their senior year. You can't drink until 21 in our state or where they went to college. Many seniors get senioritis.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:34     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?


Most turn 18, these kids are turning 19.
Let’s stay on topic, OP’s kids are turning 18.


They are 18 all year.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:26     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?


Most turn 18, these kids are turning 19.
Let’s stay on topic, OP’s kids are turning 18.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:25     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:So get them an apartment and a pack of vapes.


Hahaha, I had friends in high school that were 18 in their own apartment because their parents kicked them out (not because they were bad kids, but because they were 18 and old enough to fend for themselves). Great party pad.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:23     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
This isn't uncommon though. Most kids turn 18 their senior year of high school.

Anonymous
Post 11/12/2024 00:06     Subject: Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?


Most turn 18, these kids are turning 19.