Anonymous wrote:I don’t show it, but I don’t like it when some man refers to me as “the young lady in the blue shirt.”

I’m 65. So patronizing.

Agree.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a LMC thing. Just ignore it.

In England, the equivalent is “Luf (love)” or “Duk (Duck)” and it’s an LMC/regional (northern)thing there too.

No, in England in the 1970's in the NORTH only it was "Duck". No one still living uses that.

I hated taking my kids to the ortho where everyone older than me in the office insisted on calling me "Mom"

I asked them to stop but they wouldn't.

Anonymous wrote:It’s regional.

People from Baltimore often say “hon”

Where I’m from in NC, it’s hon, sweetie, sweetheart.


You are overthinking this and looking for issues. SMH. Bless your heart.

Agree, regional. In New Orleans it's "baby". Such as: hey baby, how's your Mama? Hey baby, whacha want?" I call my teen kids baby! Its what I grew up with

In general no.

I had a plumber from Michael and son who was mad he did the work wrong and when I kept calling him on it he said “listen Honey”.

I let him know it was not appropriate.

My good friend works in an industry teaching customer service and it’s like nails on a chalk board for her… but we never say something in a wait staff situation.

It’s a LMC thing. Just ignore it.

In England, the equivalent is “Luf (love)” or “Duk (Duck)” and it’s an LMC/regional (northern)thing there too.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t show it, but I don’t like it when some man refers to me as “the young lady in the blue shirt.”

I’m 65. So patronizing.

Right? It's like when I was a teenager out with my grandma (who fully looked like what Central Casting would order for a grandma, complete with a tissue up her cardigan sleeve) and someone said we were sisters. Who falls for that shit? Men?!

Amen. Or when the 20-something checker calls me “young lady.” No, dude, you didn’t make my day!

As long as it's not said with a patronizing tone it's fine. I'm 35 and a nurse. I look and sound younger. I have patients call me sweetheart, honey, sweetie, darling (and some less nice names) and on the phone I have people call me sweetheart and honey. It's mostly women. If it's a male calling me one of those names, 90% it's someone who could be my grandpa and it doesn't really bother me. The other 10% it's usually used on a creepy or patronizing way.

I don't like it. They don't know me so let's keep it business like, please.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Lighten up Francis.

Now the first time I was called "ma'am" by a teen, yikes, I did mind that!

At least someone is bothering to raise polite teens. I would respect that at least.

I tend to listen for the intent and not the words.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t show it, but I don’t like it when some man refers to me as “the young lady in the blue shirt.”

I’m 65. So patronizing.

Right? It's like when I was a teenager out with my grandma (who fully looked like what Central Casting would order for a grandma, complete with a tissue up her cardigan sleeve) and someone said we were sisters. Who falls for that shit? Men?!

When I was younger and it was from dudes trying to creep on me, yes.

In any other context, of course not.

I have friends who call me ‘gorgeous’ or ‘beautiful’ and I want to tell them to STFU. I was prettier than average when I was younger, but never really liked the feminine thing, and always hated when people commented on my looks, and now it seems even more sad. Why do they think I need this?

No, it doesn't bother me because I realize that 99% of the time, it's a regional thing.