Anonymous wrote:After a lifetime of abuse, and decades of therapy, yes I do. I want their money going to good causes and I want them knowing that their outdated racist behavior isn't acceptable. And yes, I want to be someone who doesn't make excuses for racism. Growing up in the deep south, I saw and heard awful things. My backwards family still uses the N word like it's no big deal. I do believe in justice, even if it takes a lifetime to get it. If you were raised by mentally healthy, loving, non-rascist people, I have no doubt my experience seems extreme.
Anonymous wrote:After a lifetime of abuse, and decades of therapy, yes I do. I want their money going to good causes and I want them knowing that their outdated racist behavior isn't acceptable. /quote]
How would they know if dead?
Anonymous wrote:After a lifetime of abuse, and decades of therapy, yes I do. I want their money going to good causes and I want them knowing that their outdated racist behavior isn't acceptable. And yes, I want to be someone who doesn't make excuses for racism. Growing up in the deep south, I saw and heard awful things. My backwards family still uses the N word like it's no big deal. I do believe in justice, even if it takes a lifetime to get it. If you were raised by mentally healthy, loving, non-rascist people, I have no doubt my experience seems extreme.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I disagree with PP. I plan on letting the staff at my mother's facility know she was always like this. Always was racist and hates other women. It's nuts. Not giving her a pass now that she's old. Nope. You reap what you sow. I'll also be donating half our inheritance from her to a HBCU for a scholarship in my parents' names. They would hate that more than anything in the world. And yes I will tell them that's what I'm doing once they aren't able to change the will. I've thought of this since high school. Other half of their money will go to support abortion rights. Can't wait. I will feel some justice after a lifetime of witnessing their despicable treatment of other people.
Although I can empathize with some of your feelings, what you are doing is becoming your mother. She is now a vulnerable person, and you are using your power to harm her. You don't have to help her, but vengeance is not healthy or right. Your parents probably hurt you because they were damaged. Now you are damaged and striking out. It's ok to walk away, but it's not ok to actively harm your mom. Making those donations is a wonderful thing, but telling them about it with the intent of causing distress is not.
Do you really want to be this kind of person?