I think the real issue is that your 30 yr old adult child is asking you for money, especially for something so trivial. Are they disabled?

I have two adult children and never in a million years would they ask me for money for a uber anywhere. In fact they like to buy me dinner and pick up costs for things like uber or a hotel bill. None of us have a lot of money but I didn't raise my kids to be sucking money out of parents well into their adulthood.

That’s a want not a need. I don’t fund my 30 year old children’s wants. That’s what their job is for. (We paid for college and their first car.)

The weight sounds like an excuse and the real issue is not wanting to ride the bus. Could you offer to subsidize housing closer to work or near a rail line? The happier they are, the easier it would be to lose weight, if that’s what they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly it is too late. Your child is a grownup. Not even that young anymore. You should have taught proper nutrition and fitness long time.

Time for all the nasty comments, I guess. Hopefully, OP is no longer reading. If she is, I want to commend her for her openness and response of gratitude to the many good suggestions that came her way. OP if you are here, ignore the ugly remarks.

Nothing is nasty about my response. Grow up! It is the reality of life. Parents should parent little kids, not 30 year old adults.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly it is too late. Your child is a grownup. Not even that young anymore. You should have taught proper nutrition and fitness long time.

Time for all the nasty comments, I guess. Hopefully, OP is no longer reading. If she is, I want to commend her for her openness and response of gratitude to the many good suggestions that came her way. OP if you are here, ignore the ugly remarks.

Buy them a new pair of shoes.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly it is too late. Your child is a grownup. Not even that young anymore. You should have taught proper nutrition and fitness long time.

Can teach it and live it every day when young, but when adult, it’s their choices. Parents need to repeat it’s their choices. So love but don’t enable.