We live on a crazy block with hundreds of trick or treaters and they were all SO polite. It was awesome!

OP, the people who complain about full sized can deal with that at home. I think it’s great that you do this. In our neighborhood, all the kids know the houses that give the best candy and they get so excited to approach them.

We let our 3 year old go up to doors himself — reminded him to say trick or treat and thank you for each house we went to but no clue if he did. Hope so!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Some people ask the kids to choose one. Some kids have special needs. Also, no full sized bars please!

Why no full sized?

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😂 This made me so happy; thank you for this. Sweet Wilford

I gave out a single fun sized piece per kid (I was worried about running out) and they all said thank you. No one was rude at all. I believe that you encountered rude kids, OP. But don’t expect extra gratitude for large candy bars that no one needs anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you seriously complaining about this? Do understand that every door they knock on, the owner receives them differently and may have different expectations. It was right for the child (8!) to ask rather than assume. Maybe the other houses told the 10 year old to take what he likes out the bowl so he did that at your house. the norms of Halloween (a dying holiday) is not obvious.

Halloween is not a dying holiday—it’s bigger than ever. There was an article in the Times last week about how it’s a multibillion dollar industry.

It’s definitely evolved from being about kids in a neighborhood trick or treating together to a full on family affair with organized parties and parents making the plans.

Anonymous wrote:Are you seriously complaining about this? Do understand that every door they knock on, the owner receives them differently and may have different expectations. It was right for the child (8!) to ask rather than assume. Maybe the other houses told the 10 year old to take what he likes out the bowl so he did that at your house. the norms of Halloween (a dying holiday) is not obvious.

Well he should have listened when the poster said take one, not take four.

Anonymous wrote:Are you seriously complaining about this? Do understand that every door they knock on, the owner receives them differently and may have different expectations. It was right for the child (8!) to ask rather than assume. Maybe the other houses told the 10 year old to take what he likes out the bowl so he did that at your house. the norms of Halloween (a dying holiday) is not obvious.

Halloween is not a dying holiday—it’s bigger than ever. There was an article in the Times last week about how it’s a multibillion dollar industry.

We don’t get many, but all were very polite.

This is what happens when people stop going to church.

Church is abhorrent but it did exist to teach basic manners and enforce social norms. People behaved better when they feared going to Hell.

I am not even being sarcastic with this.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious why you handed out full sizes bars. It seems expensive to do that. Are you very wealthy? How much do you spend each year on candy to hand out?

Not OP but we do full-size bars. We spend maybe $80 on candy? We don't get a ton of kids.

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I did assorted things at a bigger size since we don't get many. The kids love it and I enjoy that. Slightly more than half said trick or treat, but all were sweet kids. Some were chatty, some didn't say a word, a couple ignored my take one instruction and some asked which I okayed because we had enough. I assume the kids who ignore instructions are way too excited to register what I'm saying in time or they just have some self control issues for some reason that I have no interest in judging. It's a night for the kids and I want them all to enjoy it and have good memories.

I was impressed with how incredibly polite all of our trick or treaters were. Probably more so than ever. Gives me hope.

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious why you handed out full sizes bars. It seems expensive to do that. Are you very wealthy? How much do you spend each year on candy to hand out?

Not OP but we do full-size bars. We spend maybe $80 on candy? We don't get a ton of kids.

Anonymous wrote:I agree kids are generally ruder than they used to be. Adults too. It’s also hard because we have much more variety of rules. Even nice kids don’t know what to do because at this house you take one, at the next the lady gives you two, then at the next a basket sits out with directions to take one large or two small.

I agree this is more confusing for kids- when we were kids the adult usually were putting candy in our bags, now it's different at every house.

I had kids not say trick or treat or forget to say thank you- and a lot of parents reminding them to. I didn’t get any outright rude kids, just kids who were overwhelmed/excited and, yes, mostly focused on getting candy