A cookie. Any Tom dick or Jane can do this

Just want to say that you are a very sweet friend!

As someone who ran her first half-marathon earlier this year, but has since run a few more difficult ones without a lot of fanfare or effort, I think it's sweet that you want to acknowledge this milestone.

I don't know if a physical gift is necessary, but after my first it was nice to have people acknowledge it as an accomplishment. For me, DH is great about picking up the slack for me after long runs, so I don't need help with recovery...but if that's not her case, then anything that can help her recover (food, watching kids, etc) would be great. Otherwise, just send her an email or a card telling her you are proud of her. If she wants an object to commemorate the event, they will give her a medal and a t-shirt...she doesn't need anything else.

Leftover oxycodone?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

Agree! If someone gave me a gift I'd think "you don't know me at all, this is going in the trash, what a waste!"

Oh dear.

Offer to take care of her kids for the afternoon after the half. That way she can take a nap.

No physical gift.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

Agree! If someone gave me a gift I'd think "you don't know me at all, this is going in the trash, what a waste!"

Sending congratulatory flowers the next day might be nice. You sound like a great friend.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

What a Scrooge-y response. Enjoy your streamlined life!

What is Scrooge-y about my response?

Is you giving gifts to people about the recipient's actual want or need...or trying to fulfill something within you?

I think you're reading a bit too much into an innocent thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

What a Scrooge-y response. Enjoy your streamlined life!

What is Scrooge-y about my response?

Is you giving gifts to people about the recipient's actual want or need...or trying to fulfill something within you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

JFC. What lovely sentiment. BEt you have loads of friends. /s

"The notion rests on three premises: that every person has a primary love language, that there are five love languages (physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time and gifts), and that when couples ‘speak’ the same love language it improves the quality of their relationships."

" the studies found inconsistent evidence for the five languages ...while other relationship research shows there are additional ways of expressing and receiving love. ...no scientific evidence for Chapman’s central contention that people who choose partners that speak their love language, or learn to speak it, will have more successful relationships. ... people need ... factors described by the five love languages and others, such as companionship and emotional support to nourish lasting love. ... people and relationships aren’t static and can’t be categorized into neat boxes.”

https://www.utm.utoronto.ca/main-news/changing-conversation-around-love-languages-and-positive-relationships

When our friend ran a marathon in Miami ages ago, two of us gave her a gift cert to get a massage afterwards. I've had other friends run a marathon though and I've never given them a gift. But I will show up with a sign for encouragement.

When I ran races, whether they were 5ks or a 10-miler, it was always nice to read the signs cheering us/someone on or having a funny slogan, even if they weren't for me. One that I always remember is "Remember, Oprah crapped her pants too!"

Also knowing that my loved ones were going to be at a certain spot to cheer me on made me excited to see them and for them to see me.

Wow. I came here to see how I could express pride in a friend doing something that meant a lot to her. I guess some of you are imagining a sleigh filled to the brim with plastic trinkets from Wal-Mart.

What odd replies.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to the race? Bring a sign. Otherwise a gift is a dumb idea. Just support her.

What is your problem? A gift isn't a dumb idea. It's supportive. Be kind. The world needs more kindness.

Is her love language receiving gifts? For many people, including myself as a later-in-life-runner, gifts = clutter = a PITA to deal with. Gifts are the opposite of kindness, because now I have to deal with "stuff."

What a Scrooge-y response. Enjoy your streamlined life!