Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 04:23     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Unless you install a camera in the house and at the entrance and let them know you’ll be monitoring, but then you have the problem of your actual guests being extremely uncomfortable with this.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 04:11     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:People like you are why I'm not thrilled about my kids going to other people's homes.


+1 right!
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 00:14     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Why don't your kids already live in the guest house? I'm so confused.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 00:12     Subject: Give access to the guest house
People like you are why I'm not thrilled about my kids going to other people's homes.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 00:09     Subject: Re:Give access to the guest house
A lot of us had pool houses. I’m going to say absolutely not
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 23:42     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So here’s the middle class version of that. We had a used 20-foot Coleman camper-trailer growing up and my parents used to let me have sleepovers in it. Similar to a guest house in that there were beds and a bathroom (sort of—I am now wondering how my dad emptied the sewage from it when it was parked in our side yard). I remember one time we ate all the onion salt out of the spice rack. Wild times.

I’ve never know anyone with a guest house so I’m not really qualified, but I think I would say no.


When I was in high school (90s) a friend had a glorified treehouse (maybe a room above a shed? It’s hazy) that was detached from the house. No bathroom, but they lived in a wooded area and everyone was willing to pee in the woods. We were a bunch of theater kids so sometimes we had rousing singalongs and other G rated fun, but mostly we got high and made out.


were her initials MG?
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 23:41     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:I also think no, it would become the party hookup spot for your kids’ social circle


This.

Hell no, you don't give them access until they are launched, on their own, and thirty years old coming back to visit a few nights with their fiancé.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 23:41     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:So here’s the middle class version of that. We had a used 20-foot Coleman camper-trailer growing up and my parents used to let me have sleepovers in it. Similar to a guest house in that there were beds and a bathroom (sort of—I am now wondering how my dad emptied the sewage from it when it was parked in our side yard). I remember one time we ate all the onion salt out of the spice rack. Wild times.

I’ve never know anyone with a guest house so I’m not really qualified, but I think I would say no.


When I was in high school (90s) a friend had a glorified treehouse (maybe a room above a shed? It’s hazy) that was detached from the house. No bathroom, but they lived in a wooded area and everyone was willing to pee in the woods. We were a bunch of theater kids so sometimes we had rousing singalongs and other G rated fun, but mostly we got high and made out.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 23:34     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Why did you have children if you didn't want to parent them?

I didn't get unfettered access to our guest house until I was married.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 22:38     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:The liability!


YUP
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 21:59     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Depends on the kid. My 17 yo has a friend who lives in the detached apartment her mom used to air bnb - but it’s pretty close to the main house (was a garage) but her mom keeps things pretty managed.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 21:28     Subject: Give access to the guest house
My daughter has access to ours. But she is a super good kid. And I stop in unannounced whenever I please.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 21:22     Subject: Re:Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:No. WTF.


+1. Of course not. Also OP will have liability for whatever happens and other parents will
be angry. I wouldn't let my kid go to such a situation
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 21:18     Subject: Give access to the guest house
I had a friend in high school whose parents allowed this. It was a place for drinking and weed.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 21:15     Subject: Give access to the guest house
Anonymous wrote:Ok my instinct was heck no but then I wondered if I was being too strict and paranoid. Glad to hear others wouldn't allow it either



You aren't, but eve if you were it's okay to not make your teens happy all the time.. It;s okay to not do what the other parents are doing.