Anonymous
10/30/2024 19:33
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
I would say most were horrible and abusive. Run by catholic church or groups in the business of selling babies and young kids.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 09:01
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
False. Almost 100% of the time it is because the parents want to keep them but cannot afford them. Now, if it is because of the death of a parent, it is usually the father/husband. Harder for a woman to find a new employed husband to take on her kids than a single father to find a new wife.
They are considered group homes.
you forgot about all of the unwanted pregnancies via unmarried women or men who sired a child with a woman other than his wife. There were entire orphanages JUST FOR WOMEN who were pregnant! My mom was sent to one of those when she got pregnant with me at 16. They tried to make her give me up but she had a nervous breakdown so let her keep me. Not the best decision for me, but I digress.
These were not typically called orphanages locally in this area, they were like St. Ann’s in Hyattsville which was at one time one of these and called something like St. Ann’s Home for Infants and Maternity. Pregnant teens were sent to these.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 09:01
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
Poverty rather than the death of parents has always been a major factor in children ending up in orphanage care. Today 80% of kids in orphanages have living parents, in the past rates were similar.
No, it also includes abuse and neglect and financial reasons.
The above is true. Also, in the past unwed mothers were forced to give up their babies.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 09:00
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
I grew up across the street from a place that used to be an orphanage/childrens home.
I know and have talked to others who lived there. Most of them seem to speak of it fondly. I think some of them came from rough family situations and so the children's home was better.
One of them told me that the years she spent there were the best years of her childhood.
It was a working farm and the kids worked on the farm and learned other skills (construction, lawn care, etc).
They had their own elementary school but went to public high school. There was a bit of a stigma to being from the orphanage, but my dad used to cross the street and play with them all the time. One of them told me with tears in his eyes, "He used to play with us just like we were any other kids."
I know and have talked to others who lived there. Most of them seem to speak of it fondly. I think some of them came from rough family situations and so the children's home was better.
One of them told me that the years she spent there were the best years of her childhood.
It was a working farm and the kids worked on the farm and learned other skills (construction, lawn care, etc).
They had their own elementary school but went to public high school. There was a bit of a stigma to being from the orphanage, but my dad used to cross the street and play with them all the time. One of them told me with tears in his eyes, "He used to play with us just like we were any other kids."
Anonymous
10/30/2024 08:52
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:I remember a family next door to us, this was about 40 years ago.
The parents were fairly old, but the father was a heavy smoker and got sick with a chronic illness and ended up on disability. The mother had some mental health issues, but nothing really drastic. The social worker helping the family found out that their 13 year old daughter was a prostitute. So the they descided that it wasn’t too late to save the 5 year old sister and got her removed as a preventative measure.
The foster kids are not all unwanted children or kids of irresponsible teenagers
I have a cousin who is a foster parent, and your last statement is so true. I do think that in theory the Foster system is a way to help parents get their own lives together so they can be better parents. Ideally at least.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 06:42
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
False. Almost 100% of the time it is because the parents want to keep them but cannot afford them. Now, if it is because of the death of a parent, it is usually the father/husband. Harder for a woman to find a new employed husband to take on her kids than a single father to find a new wife.
you forgot about all of the unwanted pregnancies via unmarried women or men who sired a child with a woman other than his wife. There were entire orphanages JUST FOR WOMEN who were pregnant! My mom was sent to one of those when she got pregnant with me at 16. They tried to make her give me up but she had a nervous breakdown so let her keep me. Not the best decision for me, but I digress.
These were not typically called orphanages locally in this area, they were like St. Ann’s in Hyattsville which was at one time one of these and called something like St. Ann’s Home for Infants and Maternity. Pregnant teens were sent to these.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 01:36
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
Not true. It was a mix.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 01:24
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Look up Georgia Tann, my tablet won't let me post a link.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 01:17
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:My mom was in a Catholic orphanage from birth to age 5months. She has a flat head. She had rheumatic fever that damaged her heart and caused hearing loss in one ear.
She's still pretty messed up. It's amazing that only 5 months could alter her life. Because she couldn't hear well, she did poorly in school and in the job market. Married jerks too but I'm unsure if that's realted.
It's the specific five months she was in there. If it'd been five months when she was 10 years old it'd have been different. 0-6 are the most formative years.
Anonymous
10/30/2024 00:40
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
I remember a family next door to us, this was about 40 years ago.
The parents were fairly old, but the father was a heavy smoker and got sick with a chronic illness and ended up on disability. The mother had some mental health issues, but nothing really drastic. The social worker helping the family found out that their 13 year old daughter was a prostitute. So the they descided that it wasn’t too late to save the 5 year old sister and got her removed as a preventative measure.
The foster kids are not all unwanted children or kids of irresponsible teenagers
The parents were fairly old, but the father was a heavy smoker and got sick with a chronic illness and ended up on disability. The mother had some mental health issues, but nothing really drastic. The social worker helping the family found out that their 13 year old daughter was a prostitute. So the they descided that it wasn’t too late to save the 5 year old sister and got her removed as a preventative measure.
The foster kids are not all unwanted children or kids of irresponsible teenagers
Anonymous
10/29/2024 13:01
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
False. Almost 100% of the time it is because the parents want to keep them but cannot afford them. Now, if it is because of the death of a parent, it is usually the father/husband. Harder for a woman to find a new employed husband to take on her kids than a single father to find a new wife.
you forgot about all of the unwanted pregnancies via unmarried women or men who sired a child with a woman other than his wife. There were entire orphanages JUST FOR WOMEN who were pregnant! My mom was sent to one of those when she got pregnant with me at 16. They tried to make her give me up but she had a nervous breakdown so let her keep me. Not the best decision for me, but I digress.
Anonymous
10/29/2024 12:56
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
My mom was in a Catholic orphanage from birth to age 5months. She has a flat head. She had rheumatic fever that damaged her heart and caused hearing loss in one ear.
She's still pretty messed up. It's amazing that only 5 months could alter her life. Because she couldn't hear well, she did poorly in school and in the job market. Married jerks too but I'm unsure if that's realted.
She's still pretty messed up. It's amazing that only 5 months could alter her life. Because she couldn't hear well, she did poorly in school and in the job market. Married jerks too but I'm unsure if that's realted.
Anonymous
10/29/2024 10:24
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
False. Almost 100% of the time it is because the parents want to keep them but cannot afford them. Now, if it is because of the death of a parent, it is usually the father/husband. Harder for a woman to find a new employeed husband to take on her kids than a single father to find a new wife.
In my family's case, the mother was permanently incapacitated, there were 5 children under 10, going to school was compulsory to age 16, and the father was a factory worker. The foster care/central orphanage was better than home care since the neighborhood was rough and poor. And the father could not remarry since he had a living wife. He had to liquidate their house to give his wife's only assets to the state to pay for her permanent hospital care. She outlived him by about 20 years.
Anonymous
10/29/2024 09:09
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
Poverty rather than the death of parents has always been a major factor in children ending up in orphanage care. Today 80% of kids in orphanages have living parents, in the past rates were similar.
The above is true. Also, in the past unwed mothers were forced to give up their babies.
Anonymous
10/29/2024 09:05
Subject: What was it like in American Orphanages?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This discussion is what happens when unwanted kids are born. Institutions raising kids will never work out to the kid's benefit. Many of those kids will grow up to be dysfunctional adults and produce dysfunctional kids of their own. If only there were a way to prevent unwanted kids from being born....
The death of the parents is what lead most into orphanages back then not parents giving them up
Poverty rather than the death of parents has always been a major factor in children ending up in orphanage care. Today 80% of kids in orphanages have living parents, in the past rates were similar.