Anonymous wrote:OP here. And I mean this kindly, or not (take it how you wish), you do not know our relationship and the reasons for the gaps in time. We have a very good relationship but they live 10 hour away and they travel a lot. They have a lot of activities and friends still. They are very busy. Too busy to come visit us very much.
And fwiw, I forgot that my DH did see them briefly this summer (briefly b/c THEY were busy and didn't make a lot of time for him while he was there - which is FINE.) But to somehow imply that we are horrible for not seeing them more is not accurate or right. A large part of the reasons we dont see them more i they are very busy. And that's great. But it's also why we are so suprised about how his physical decline has accelerated.
And honestly, when someone comes asking about opinions like this, the judgmental responses are uncalled for, unappreciated, and just nasty. But, I guess I should know better on this site.
Oh well, as I'm not getting any helpful insights, I'm out. Flame away. It's what y'all do best, apparently.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:They’re 85. Get a grip.
Feel free to scroll on by without being a prick. K?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need to see them more often. Time is much shorter than you think.
BTDT
NP: it's not always feasible unless you live nearby. My parents live 2 flights and 3K miles away. I try to visit 2x per year. But it's really not feasible to just go there every month or two. It's time and money involved. I also have kids at home, who also need me around.
Anonymous wrote:You need to see them more often. Time is much shorter than you think.
BTDT
Anonymous wrote:OP here. And I mean this kindly, or not (take it how you wish), you do not know our relationship and the reasons for the gaps in time. We have a very good relationship but they live 10 hour away and they travel a lot. They have a lot of activities and friends still. They are very busy. Too busy to come visit us very much.
And fwiw, I forgot that my DH did see them briefly this summer (briefly b/c THEY were busy and didn't make a lot of time for him while he was there - which is FINE.) But to somehow imply that we are horrible for not seeing them more is not accurate or right. A large part of the reasons we dont see them more i they are very busy. And that's great. But it's also why we are so suprised about how his physical decline has accelerated.
And honestly, when someone comes asking about opinions like this, the judgmental responses are uncalled for, unappreciated, and just nasty. But, I guess I should know better on this site.
Oh well, as I'm not getting any helpful insights, I'm out. Flame away. It's what y'all do best, apparently.
Anonymous wrote:I missed the 18 month thing. Unless you have some really extenuating circumstances, why so long?