Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:16     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.


The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.


This. No gifts says “We are so rich AND we don’t trust you to bring anything we’d deem worthy for our child to play with.” It’s so rude and off-putting. It’s really not that hard to drop unwanted stuff off at Goodwill.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:13     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:Omg how do some of you get through life thinking everyone’s decisions are a personal attack on you?


+1000

You do you. Some people want gifts at parties. Others don’t. All good. Why try to impose your beliefs on someone else at their event? Have your own event and do yours your way.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:12     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:Omg how do some of you get through life thinking everyone’s decisions are a personal attack on you?


Oh. You should check out the SAHM vs WOHM thread. 136 pages about being butt hurt about someone else’s decisions.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 21:10     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Omg how do some of you get through life thinking everyone’s decisions are a personal attack on you?
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 20:47     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.


The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.


This. No gifts says “We are so rich AND we don’t trust you to bring anything we’d deem worthy for our child to play with.” It’s so rude and off-putting. It’s really not that hard to drop unwanted stuff off at Goodwill.


+1. It scream “only I may select my child’s many possessions.”
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 20:37     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
I wonder if these kids will grow up never giving gifts to friends...since they never got one.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 20:23     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


Yes I agree with this. Hosts that do this are ignoring how human beings want and need to bring a token of appreciation. Let them. Stop being bossy and superior.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 19:52     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No Gift Parties are the new normal - it is not some odd thing.

You better adjust. And adjust your thinking. No reason to choose to think the worst of people.

The teaching of gift giving - you have plenty of other opportunities.


You need to stop having parties. Simple.


Right? Just donate the money to charity. These kids don’t need a party of people fawning over them when they already have so much their parents can’t abide one more gift.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 19:45     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


I agree with the is
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:45     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:No Gift Parties are the new normal - it is not some odd thing.

You better adjust. And adjust your thinking. No reason to choose to think the worst of people.

The teaching of gift giving - you have plenty of other opportunities.


You need to stop having parties. Simple.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:44     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.


The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.


This. No gifts says “We are so rich AND we don’t trust you to bring anything we’d deem worthy for our child to play with.” It’s so rude and off-putting. It’s really not that hard to drop unwanted stuff off at Goodwill.


That's a weird interpretation that is a reflection on you. Some people simply feel they and their kids have enough material things and don't want guests to be obligated to buy presents. It's not about being rich, at least not the material sense. Instead of taking your kid to buy a gift, if that is so important to you, have your child make a card. It's not that deep.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:44     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:Please stop asking this question. If you are invited to a no gift party, you don't bring a gift. Have your child make or fill out a nice card. If they want to give something small that fits in the envelope with the card (we've received a homemade bracelet, an initial crayon, a cute keychain), you can, but they don't have to because the host requested no gifts.

No need to feel sorry for the child, they are either too young to care or this has been discussed with their parent and they are okay with it and whatever alternative their parent provided.

Again, no gift means you don't need to bring a gift.


If you are too good to have your kids get gifts, don't have parties. No kid wants a card, bracelet, keychain or other junk. If your kids are that spoiled that they have so much stuff, stop buying so much stuff and let them have gifts. We will always buy gifts as its abuot the child not you. Its not an alternative childhood. Its bad parenting.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:41     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
No Gift Parties are the new normal - it is not some odd thing.

You better adjust. And adjust your thinking. No reason to choose to think the worst of people.

The teaching of gift giving - you have plenty of other opportunities.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:38     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.


Our kids have to a socioeconomically diverse school. We explicitly say no gifts so people know they are welcome to come without one. If someone brings a gift anyway it is accepted with a thank you, of course.


As if that would stop them from coming. This is where people bring all the siblings and extended family to parties. Showing up empty handed would not be a problem.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 16:04     Subject: PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you actually were attending many of these parties, you would know that in reality that is not what happens


Because people decide to make it about themselves instead of respecting the hosts’ wishes.


Maybe they are making it about the kid!


Because they think they know better than the parents? Yuck.


Come on...this is not about what a kid eats and how they are disciplined, This is giving a birthday gift and celebrating a little person. Weird world where parents need to control every toy their kid has. Will Santa get the same instructions?


Weird thing to say when Santa . . . .