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Anonymous wrote:Is this that big of a deal?

Op. Yes, it is since she shares with her sibling who is getting annoyed by all the clothes on the floor and the rest of the mess she makes with her accessories and sibling wants to use the master bathroom all the time and sibling's things are in both bathrooms.

I have a similar situation and the kid who is annoyed gets irritated at the messy kid. Honestly I think this is much better than me stepping in.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up.

So you want to put a basket in the bathroom when she's shown you that she couldn't care less about putting her clothes in a nearby basket that already exists? Just take the damn clothes if they're laying on the floor.

So you pick up after your kids every day?

Nope. My kids use the hamper, as they've been doing since the age of about 3. I was referring to the fact that OP should confiscate the clothes that are laying on the floor. She should take the clothes and throw them into a bag and put them somewhere until DD learns how to take care of her own things.

Does the shared bathroom have a door into her bedroom (like a jack and Jill)? I gave mine permission to take a broom and just shove all her sisters stuff into a pile at the door to her bedroom.
I agree with a laundry basket in the bathroom or her room though. They may ones that can go on a door hook that college students use. You have to make this a little easier. Or maybe a basket right outside the bathroom door?
If it helps, you are not alone. This is a common problem. The good news is that it will immediately be solved in college because you can’t leave clothes in the dorm bathroom. Maybe another solution is to buy her a bathrobe and tell her clothes come off in her bedroom NOT the bathroom—that’s what college kids do. Robe goes on hook on bathroom or bedroom.

My utter slob went to college and is immediately cured because she doesn’t want to piss off her roommate. Pisssing off her sister and her mom was fine, of course.

Tell her you will confiscate the clothes that remain on the floor. And, DO IT! Do not give them back. Keep a HEFTY bag in your trunk and when full, donate. Do not make up some deal for her to get the clothes back. This isn’t difficult. You gave her fair warning. After a bag of clothes has been donated, she will get her shi$ together.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up.

My kid is somewhat similar. She does her own laundry but never folds it. Clean clothes PILE up in laundry baskets. She is otherwise responsible but her room is definitely messy. Nothing I say or do changes her habits.

My kid is like this and I kind of don’t care. They do their laundry and are responsible for it. If it doesn’t get put away, oh well. It doesn’t impact anyone else in the house.

I would absolutely confiscate clothes on the floor though. That’s really disrespectful to the other sibling. We have this issue with empty contact cases and efferdent packets. I do get on them about that because it does impact others and isn’t being a good housemate.

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Anonymous wrote:Start confiscating the clothes.

NP and maybe I’ll start doing that. Same issue. Both of mine are leaving everything in a pile in the bathroom. I told them this morning I was starting a $5 pick up fine per day but I wonder if taking the clothes would be more effective.

I give a one pic warning

After that the clothes are mine. They need to do one chore to get one piece back.

Non negotiable

It works 90% of the time now. The other 10% I get chores done

Anonymous wrote:Get a grip. If laundry on the bathroom floor is your breaking point, you should seek help immediately.

^DD chimes in, lol

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Anonymous wrote:Is this that big of a deal?

Op. Yes, it is since she shares with her sibling who is getting annoyed by all the clothes on the floor and the rest of the mess she makes with her accessories and sibling wants to use the master bathroom all the time and sibling's things are in both bathrooms.

Where is your DH? You should be a united front on this.

Let her manage her own space.

Take your Valium.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up.

My kid is somewhat similar. She does her own laundry but never folds it. Clean clothes PILE up in laundry baskets. She is otherwise responsible but her room is definitely messy. Nothing I say or do changes her habits.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up.

So you want to put a basket in the bathroom when she's shown you that she couldn't care less about putting her clothes in a nearby basket that already exists? Just take the damn clothes if they're laying on the floor.

So you pick up after your kids every day?

Anonymous wrote:Is this that big of a deal?

Op. Yes, it is since she shares with her sibling who is getting annoyed by all the clothes on the floor and the rest of the mess she makes with her accessories and sibling wants to use the master bathroom all the time and sibling's things are in both bathrooms.

Is this that big of a deal?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up.

So you want to put a basket in the bathroom when she's shown you that she couldn't care less about putting her clothes in a nearby basket that already exists? Just take the damn clothes if they're laying on the floor.

Also -- I had a kid who wasn't doing his laundry frequently enough. He wore totally filthy, smelly clothes and that was not acceptable. I made rides to social events contingent on having his laundry done. As in saying on Thursday, "yes, I can drive you to that football game on Saturday evening at 5 as long as your laundry is washed, dried and put away by the time we leave."

For DD, who likes to just throw everything on the floor when she dresses to go out, we leave when the room is in decent shape. If that means 5:15 rather than 5, so be it. You know the rules!