Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

I have black pants for every occasion.

- Midi ribbed sweater dress in olive, oatmeal or maroon with some nice accessories (e.g. mini leather bag from cuyana) and leather mules, suede sneakers, or boots depending on the crowd

- Pleated wool midi skirt (check this season DVF for options) or wide leg cropped trousers with crop sweater / tee and a oversized blazer or shrunken jacket (check: ALC, APC) in neutral brown / olive tones

- wide leg jumpsuit with oversized cashmere wool overcoat (check: maxmara, the row)

A wrap dress probably.

Anonymous wrote:I would wear something nicer than jeans to Friday. Pants and a sweater would be ok. Brides friends might be in nice jeans but as an older person I would not wear them. Men will probably be in khakis with possibly a blazer.

Sunday will depend on if you’re headed to the airport right after, but it’s probably anything but sweats and pjs after the big party. Khakis or pants are fine.

I reread the invitation and the brunch is indeed just casual whereas the Friday night cocktails are dressy casual.

I would wear something nicer than jeans to Friday. Pants and a sweater would be ok. Brides friends might be in nice jeans but as an older person I would not wear them. Men will probably be in khakis with possibly a blazer.

Sunday will depend on if you’re headed to the airport right after, but it’s probably anything but sweats and pjs after the big party. Khakis or pants are fine.

Aritzia or Equipment for blouses. Or a silk tank with a blazer and boots is a safe bet

For brunch I would do something that is basically elevated pajamas—wide leg pant, camisole, cardigan, sunglasses

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Anonymous wrote:I am of the mind that people wear jeans all the time, so if someone is going to the trouble of hosting a wedding weekend, I can put on something a step up from jeans. I have tons of cute dresses that can lean casual or dressy. Or a wide leg pair of pants with silk shirt or something else fun.

This is op. I like this idea. I think the problem is that I have niceish sweaters but not really any nice festive tops. Where is a good place to look at silk shirts? Most of my button down shirts are very boring business shirts. I've struck out at Nordstrom loft near my office.

I think boden has a lot of really cute silk blouses that are more interesting than standard work issue blouses.

Anonymous wrote:I am of the mind that people wear jeans all the time, so if someone is going to the trouble of hosting a wedding weekend, I can put on something a step up from jeans. I have tons of cute dresses that can lean casual or dressy. Or a wide leg pair of pants with silk shirt or something else fun.

This is op. I like this idea. I think the problem is that I have niceish sweaters but not really any nice festive tops. Where is a good place to look at silk shirts? Most of my button down shirts are very boring business shirts. I've struck out at Nordstrom loft near my office.

Drinks at a bar--Depends on the exact venue. Is it upscale or just a pub?

Brunch I would wear black trousers, Hermes scarf tied into a halter (Courbettes et cabrioles to be specific on the print), and an ivory knit blazer. Shoes would be CL Miss Sabs.

A dress is usually going to be easy for any wedding event. It shows you care, and there are lots of casual dresses.

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Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

Hahaha that’s me!!! I am an elder millennial 😂

Oooo the Express ones.

I'd find a dress or skirt/top combo that I can make look nice enough to show I care about the couple but not too fancy

Like I wore this dress to a friend's pre-wedding party at a nice restaurant over the summer - and it felt like it was the right amount of dressiness; some people were more, some less, but I felt like I looked like I wasn't too dressed up but still sufficiently so to show I care about the couple getting married: https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-supima-jersey-riviera-dress-black?collection=womens-dresses

Jeans and a nice top would have been absolutely fine at that event, too

Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

Hahaha that’s me!!! I am an elder millennial 😂

Anonymous wrote:I almost always overdress in these situations, like I'll choose a dress since that fits my body type well, but most people will be in jeans. Except for the times when I choose jeans and people are more fancy.

+1
I'm more comfortable overdressed than under.

Do the hosts a favor and put at least some minimal effort into your outfit, so it’s at least a step above what you wear to the Olive Garden on Tuesday night. No jeans.