Anonymous
Post 10/31/2024 22:32     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
He needs to cut his own path. Going to Atlanta may not solve his issues, but volunteering almost certainly will not.

Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 08:51     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Anonymous wrote:I know you want to protect him but he’s 28. He has to live his life and make his decisions. Maybe a trip out of town, seeing an old friend will give him a new perspective, help him get clear on some things. I’d let him go (Probably hold my breath and pray) and let him know he can always come back home if he ever needs to.


Do you know anything about addiction?
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2024 08:50     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Anonymous wrote:As an addictions counselor, I’d advise against a move to somewhere new. There will be no supports and no new framework to rely on. Instead, this is a good time to attend na meetings and do the steps to find stability in recovery. It can take over a year to find that, and changes can be disruptive.


This. The addiction treatment comes first.Otherwise you will likely see a spiral downward. Does his friend even know what he is getting into inviting someone who isn't fully recovered to stay for a few weeks? Unlikely and the last thing your son needs is to have a friendship go up in flames.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 19:26     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Anonymous wrote:A move or new job will not treat his underlying problem. He needs to be under the care of someone who specializes in substance abuse disorder. They can assess if inpatient or outpatient care is needed.

Please don't think you can manage this without professional expertise. The stakes are too high.

Wish you all leave and healing. 💕


* peace and healing
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 19:26     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
A move or new job will not treat his underlying problem. He needs to be under the care of someone who specializes in substance abuse disorder. They can assess if inpatient or outpatient care is needed.

Please don't think you can manage this without professional expertise. The stakes are too high.

Wish you all leave and healing. 💕
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 12:46     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Anonymous wrote:As an addictions counselor, I’d advise against a move to somewhere new. There will be no supports and no new framework to rely on. Instead, this is a good time to attend na meetings and do the steps to find stability in recovery. It can take over a year to find that, and changes can be disruptive.


As a recovering/sober alcoholic, listen to this.

Another saying: "Wherever you go, there you are."
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2024 12:38     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
He’s a drug addict and you’re enabling him to be in denial. If he doesn’t get off drugs, nothing else will make a difference.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2024 06:35     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Anonymous wrote:Is your son’s pain under control?

One of the challenges with the opioid crisis is that patients are left in *a ton* of pain, and shamed for seeking relief. Insurance skimps on every alternative form of pain therapy. So make sure your son gets PT, acupuncture, massage, meditation, whatever it is that gets his pain under control even if you pay for it. Fix the real problem.

Then get him therapy and psychological support as he comes off pain medicine.


Agree, Doing service work in a dire situation to help others is a good idea for a short therapeutic, meaningful get away. I also agree with him joining a group of people going through similar struggles. And get him a pet to be responsible for and to give him extra support and meaning. My dog literally saved me from deep depression.

Hugs to you.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2024 23:42     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Is your son’s pain under control?

One of the challenges with the opioid crisis is that patients are left in *a ton* of pain, and shamed for seeking relief. Insurance skimps on every alternative form of pain therapy. So make sure your son gets PT, acupuncture, massage, meditation, whatever it is that gets his pain under control even if you pay for it. Fix the real problem.

Then get him therapy and psychological support as he comes off pain medicine.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2024 11:06     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
No advice but hugs and prayers to give you strength. Find a good therapist who is trained and experienced to advise.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2024 10:59     Subject: Could really use some guidance, advice and comforting words
Get depression treatment for yourself. You are so enmired in sadness you are not seeing the giant sign
GEOGRAPHIC CURES DO NOT WORK.