Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 08:05     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Oh, ffs. Check your homophobia.

If DD were going with a male friend as "friends" and not as a date would you be blah blah blahing about this?

Let your poor DD enjoy her dance.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 08:00     Subject: Re:DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Anonymous wrote:I just experienced my DD's fourth HS homecoming dance, and before that my son's four homecoming dances. Girls who are straight are not wearing tuxedos to homecoming.

My opinion is OP's daughter's friend is not straight. OP's daughter is either not straight as well, or she's quite naive. The latter is a good possibility based on other things OP said about her.

It sounds to me like OP is just trying to protect her daughter from any teasing or nasty comments/gossip. As much as posters here want to collect social justice points and believe kids today are so enlightened and won't say cruel things, that isn't the case.

Call me homophobic, I don't care. I'm just pointing out the obvious.


Agree, no straight girls are wearing a tux- and to homecoming at that. If your daughter is straight and shows up to Homecoming with a girl that no one else knows and she’s in a tux, people will now assume your daughter isn’t straight. It’s not homophobic, it’s reality. If your daughter doesn’t care, cool. But she should be aware there are social implications that may follow her.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 07:55     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
OP, I don’t think it’s homophobic to ask these questions. I have two high schoolers who have gone to numerous dances in large groups and none of the girls have worn a tux. I do think many people would assume a girl in a tux is LGBTQ and if she was with another girl, likely her date. There is nothing wrong with this but I would make sure my DD knew this was the case if you think she’s clueless.

FWIW, I have a completely clueless and immature 15 yo son and even he picks up on who is LGBTQ. I suspect your DD knows if this is the case for her friend.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 07:45     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Anonymous wrote:Suits are very popular in my area from 6th grade up. Dd wears one occasionally and so do some of her friends who usually wear very girly clothes.
I'd assume a tuxedo is the prom version of the suits. I promise you are over thinking this and it's just a trend. Don't give your dd a complex about this or have her going in insecure.


Kids known for wearing crocs and pajama pants are suddenly all wearing suits? Where is this?
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 07:41     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Suits are very popular in my area from 6th grade up. Dd wears one occasionally and so do some of her friends who usually wear very girly clothes.
I'd assume a tuxedo is the prom version of the suits. I promise you are over thinking this and it's just a trend. Don't give your dd a complex about this or have her going in insecure.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 07:34     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
It's a date but DD says it's not because she knows her mother.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 07:15     Subject: Re:DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
I just experienced my DD's fourth HS homecoming dance, and before that my son's four homecoming dances. Girls who are straight are not wearing tuxedos to homecoming.

My opinion is OP's daughter's friend is not straight. OP's daughter is either not straight as well, or she's quite naive. The latter is a good possibility based on other things OP said about her.

It sounds to me like OP is just trying to protect her daughter from any teasing or nasty comments/gossip. As much as posters here want to collect social justice points and believe kids today are so enlightened and won't say cruel things, that isn't the case.

Call me homophobic, I don't care. I'm just pointing out the obvious.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2024 06:01     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
You sound homophobic.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 23:04     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
What the heck? I know several girls who rock tuxes at school dances. It can be a chic and/or feminist fashion statement.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 22:48     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Who cares? Let your daughter worry about it.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 21:33     Subject: Re:DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Trust me, your 14 year old knows if it’s a date or not. (And it’s probably not.) Regardless, no one else will care.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 21:07     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Just let it go. Either this IS a date or it really doesn’t matter, and I think either way it doesn’t matter and I admire your child for being awesome.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 21:05     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Anonymous wrote:A tux is not an indicator of being someone's date. It is an indicator that the wearer likes to wear a tux.


I graduated in 1988. Three girls wore tux's because they hated dresses.

You are reading too much into it op. Would it be better if her friend wore a barely there dress?
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 20:58     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
It seems like your daughter doesn’t know much about homecoming. Her friend will certainly stand out in a tux since nobody else will be wearing one.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2024 20:55     Subject: DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?
Have to agree that this is bordering on you sounding homophobic. And of course if this is how you come off your daughter isn't going to be honest if she likes her as more than a friend.