He will get an alert of an unrecognized air tag near him.

My kids get them from other kids they walk to school with and it freaked us out.

It is annoying- but your husband will see an alert of when and where the air tag was in proximity of him so it won’t work.

Wow, I have the Samsung version of an Airtag on my key chain and it only alerts me if it's away from my phone. No one else gets a proximity alert when it's near. Not even me unless I open the app and want to look for my keys. That's how it should work.

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Anonymous wrote:Only the phone connected to the air tag will get notifications and be able to trace it

Correct, make sure is connected to your account.

If you ride in a car with an air tag that isn't connected to any phone in the car, it will alert all the iphone users in the car.

I speak from experience. I went on an overnight school trip where a kid had a purse with an airtag that was connected to the parent's phone and not the kid's. Everyone on the trip got repeated alerts that "an unknown air tag is traveling with you".

Anonymous wrote:How about put him on a leash? Or make him wear an ankle monitor like a prisoner? Will it make you feel better? I don’t think AirTag is a solution to your problems. Ask yourself why you don’t want to let him go, he obviously doesn’t want to be with you exclusively. I bet he has had multiple affairs but you are still with him. So sad

How about until you've walked a mile in her shoes, you try not to judge her. She already noted that she's not proud of herself. How about trying to show some grace and compassion.

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Anonymous wrote:Buy an Android burner phone and an Android tracker.

I think this is the best way. If you both have apples and share an account, he can/will definitely find out.

This situation in general sounds dangerous for you though. Why would you stay if you have 0 trust?

Isn’t everyone at 0 trust when first finding out about an affair. Trust takes time to earn back. It’s not instant.

Op just separate this is no way to live

Anonymous wrote:Buy an Android burner phone and an Android tracker.

I think this is the best way. If you both have apples and share an account, he can/will definitely find out.

This situation in general sounds dangerous for you though. Why would you stay if you have 0 trust?

Anonymous wrote:It's my understanding that he will get an alert eventually. Otherwise stalkers would be abusing them all the time.

Just tell him that it's over if he turns it off. You'll be able to tell if it's not updating.

But honestly, as someone who is divorcing someone who previously cheated, I'll just say that I didn't realize the toll that the hyper vigilance took on me. Please protect your mental health. If he can't be proactive in rebuilding your trust, then it's not going to happen.

+1. My exDW cheated on me but promised fidelity etc but it was all a lie. It’s easy in retrospect to think what a dumbass for believing her. But she insisted that wasn’t cheating when we were supposed to be working things out. So I do get the impulse to want to track etc. In my case the only way I found out the truth is by checking on txts. To be honest it became a total mindf$$k. With hindsight it would say 1). Never ever reveal what you know to them 2) don’t let the situation control you.

If the AirTag is registered to you, he’ll get alerted within a couple hours that an AirTag is traveling with him. My employee keeps one in his wallet and I’m notified anytime I’m in close proximity to him for a day (think sitting nearby at a conference, riding in the same vehicle). If your phone does not go near your AirTag for 3 days, it will start beeping.

If you register the AirTag to him, he will be notified when he leaves it behind and you won’t have tracking access.

Is this the same OP who is also posting about keeping an eye on her husband’s ex AP, and how she is wearing an expensive necklace that her husband gave her?

It is very easy to spoof location by using another Apple device and making it primary, so the actual location does not show.

Anonymous wrote:Only the phone connected to the air tag will get notifications and be able to trace it

Correct, make sure is connected to your account.

How about put him on a leash? Or make him wear an ankle monitor like a prisoner? Will it make you feel better? I don’t think AirTag is a solution to your problems. Ask yourself why you don’t want to let him go, he obviously doesn’t want to be with you exclusively. I bet he has had multiple affairs but you are still with him. So sad

Even when find my is on and accurate they can still lie. Mine was clearly at an apartment building but tried his best to say the location was off. That or they leave their phone one place and go without it. As a pp stated, you will drive yourself crazy doing this as there are so many ways to hide cheating nowadays.

Wouldn't the fact that you're hiding an air tag defeat the entire purpose of trying to work on rebuilding your trust issues ?