Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 13:21     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:I went to one of the Big 5 schools. If you’d asked me years ago, I would have acknowledged a country club scene and said that it affected me negatively, as my family did not have a membership anywhere. However, now I view it differently. The key in any community is to find your tribe. People have outside-of-school social connections from a bunch of different things. It could be they live in the same neighborhood, ride horses at the same barn, play on a travel team together, share a summer swim team, or worship together. The country club stuff only feels like a problem if you haven’t found your own way to interact with other families and build community.


I also went to one of the area's top schools (for hs) and sure, there were girls in CCs, but it wasn't a big deal. My friend group had a few people that were members at different ones, but the majority were not. Our entire group would go to a few activities and Sweet 16s at the clubs, but that was about it. Senior year, when we were allowed to leave campus during free periods, some people in a different group would go to their club for lunch. We really didn't think anything of it... the bagel place down the street was a tastier sounding option to us anyway.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 13:13     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.


Why do they leave? Was NCS too academically rigorous for them?


Yes, it's not fun in high school and it great for social girls who want a balanced life. they leave, especially those who have an older sibling who went through. They're replaced by girls from Loudoun county who grind out the 3-4 hours of homework per night.


Hmm my daughter is quite social and at NCS. She and friends are having quite a fun highschool experience while maintaining good grades and being involved in their school. They get invited to all sorts of events at STA and many other schools in the area.

Her two friends that left for other schools are very vocal Trump supporters and belong to CCC so I think other schools were better fits for them.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 13:07     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:NCS has plenty of CC families (the Chevy families aren’t shy about their status) but also plenty of families who are not. Easy to find friends who are not in that group.


Or you could not belong to a club and still have friends in that group. It has a good balance at NCS in our experience.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 13:07     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.


Why do they leave? Was NCS too academically rigorous for them?


Yes, it's not fun in high school and it great for social girls who want a balanced life. they leave, especially those who have an older sibling who went through. They're replaced by girls from Loudoun county who grind out the 3-4 hours of homework per night.


Give a rest seriously. This is not just true. We have a daughter at NCS and many very social athletic girls at the school. They are socializing with STA and other schools all of the time.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 13:05     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

Only 3 girls left for Stone Ridge. That is not many girls to leave a school. But I agree NCS does not have an overall country club vibe despite many people being wealthy. Better vibe overall than some of the other schools in our experience.

Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:59     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.


The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:52     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Our family isn't a CC member but we practically are because DD's best friend's family is, and DD's best friend's mom and I are really good friends, so we're there all the time. It's great!
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:50     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
We are at SR and belong to a CC. By HS, especially by 11th grade, the kids do not hang out there. Even at the pool in summer for most part. And when they do, all friends go even if not a member.

Or are you talking about where parents hang out?
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:47     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:I have a child at a private HS and we are members of a CC. I am aware that there are other families who are also cc members but it rarely comes up in conversation nor is there a "dynamic". While some people might place importance on the optics of being part of a private school and country club community, it’s not something that always defines social interactions or dictates a dynamic.


Whether or not it comes up in conversation, if that's where your daughter and CC friends spend their summers, it creates a dynamic
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:43     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
I have a child at a private HS and we are members of a CC. I am aware that there are other families who are also cc members but it rarely comes up in conversation nor is there a "dynamic". While some people might place importance on the optics of being part of a private school and country club community, it’s not something that always defines social interactions or dictates a dynamic.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:23     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
NCS has plenty of CC families (the Chevy families aren’t shy about their status) but also plenty of families who are not. Easy to find friends who are not in that group.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 11:13     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:There's just a natural overlap between people willing to spend $35k+ on private school and people who join country clubs. I don't know if you could find a pricey high school that doesn't have some country club people.


This. I also think there's no way to make a blanket statement about a school. You are going to find some classes/cohorts that are more heavily CC families and others that are not at most if not all of the area girls' schools.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 10:58     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Holton? Um yes there’s a scene
The least all girls cc scene is prob madeira


I think there are plenty of Madeira parents who are members of clubs. But half of them are not local and those who are don't revolve their social life around it. Plus, starting at 9th grade makes social life far less parent-influenced.


Madeira has no country club scene. We have an upperclassman there and belong to a club. I’ve never heard anyone discussing their club, there have never been social events there, and I have never seen anyone from Madeira at our club (though I barely use it). Between the boarding element and the merit and financial aid, it feels less wealthy than the K-8 we came from and certainly not a country club type of school.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 10:50     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
Anonymous wrote:Our CC has a ton of visi/Gonzaga kids.


Columbia? Makes sense as it's the catholic CC.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 10:45     Subject: Country club scene at the all girls schools
There's just a natural overlap between people willing to spend $35k+ on private school and people who join country clubs. I don't know if you could find a pricey high school that doesn't have some country club people.