Anonymous wrote:When they can pay themselves (not being sarcastic).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get that you are worried about the cost, and these days lord knows you should be. But I desperately wanted a perm at that age (the 80s!) and my mother wouldn't let me get one and I'm still mad about it, lol.

I think by 13 or 14 it's appropriate for girls to become interested in things like highlights. Just figure out how it can be done more affordably and have a talk about setting a yearly budget for it. I wouldn't take a teenager to the expensive stylist who does my highlights, but I might let her go to Hair Cuttery a couple of times per year.

You should be grateful to your mother for protecting your health and her wallet (to buy you other things, perhaps). No minor is entitled to a hair treatment, and those of the 80s were much more toxic than they are today. Are you also the sort of person who claims that Homecoming is significant event in a teen's life and you absolutely want your daughter attending it? A poster wrote that the other day on DCUM.

Really, are these the ridiculous things adults resent their parents for? What about actual abuse? If you're going to come back and pretend you're not that mad about it, then you shouldn't have joked about it in the first place. Some of us had actual problems with our parents.

Pp here.

You should stop running your mouth. I suffered horrible abuse and neglect for years. My mother never once “protected my health.” Quite the opposite. She wouldn’t let me get my hair done because she was afraid I’d be prettier than she was and steal her boyfriend. That paranoia started when I was 11. And caused her to get violent often. So take your assumptions, desperate need to type away at people on the internet, and inclination to derail OP’s thread with this BS elsewhere.

No chance. I’ve seen some very young girls in my salon and it’s absurd. They are very obnoxious and entitled. I’m embarrassed for their mothers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get that you are worried about the cost, and these days lord knows you should be. But I desperately wanted a perm at that age (the 80s!) and my mother wouldn't let me get one and I'm still mad about it, lol.

I think by 13 or 14 it's appropriate for girls to become interested in things like highlights. Just figure out how it can be done more affordably and have a talk about setting a yearly budget for it. I wouldn't take a teenager to the expensive stylist who does my highlights, but I might let her go to Hair Cuttery a couple of times per year.

You should be grateful to your mother for protecting your health and her wallet (to buy you other things, perhaps). No minor is entitled to a hair treatment, and those of the 80s were much more toxic than they are today. Are you also the sort of person who claims that Homecoming is significant event in a teen's life and you absolutely want your daughter attending it? A poster wrote that the other day on DCUM.

Really, are these the ridiculous things adults resent their parents for? What about actual abuse? If you're going to come back and pretend you're not that mad about it, then you shouldn't have joked about it in the first place. Some of us had actual problems with our parents.

NP. Lady, this is a thread about highlights. Go unpack your childhood trauma with a therapist or in the analysis forum.

* family forum.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get that you are worried about the cost, and these days lord knows you should be. But I desperately wanted a perm at that age (the 80s!) and my mother wouldn't let me get one and I'm still mad about it, lol.

I think by 13 or 14 it's appropriate for girls to become interested in things like highlights. Just figure out how it can be done more affordably and have a talk about setting a yearly budget for it. I wouldn't take a teenager to the expensive stylist who does my highlights, but I might let her go to Hair Cuttery a couple of times per year.

You should be grateful to your mother for protecting your health and her wallet (to buy you other things, perhaps). No minor is entitled to a hair treatment, and those of the 80s were much more toxic than they are today. Are you also the sort of person who claims that Homecoming is significant event in a teen's life and you absolutely want your daughter attending it? A poster wrote that the other day on DCUM.

Really, are these the ridiculous things adults resent their parents for? What about actual abuse? If you're going to come back and pretend you're not that mad about it, then you shouldn't have joked about it in the first place. Some of us had actual problems with our parents.

NP. Lady, this is a thread about highlights. Go unpack your childhood trauma with a therapist or in the analysis forum.

Anonymous wrote:I get that you are worried about the cost, and these days lord knows you should be. But I desperately wanted a perm at that age (the 80s!) and my mother wouldn't let me get one and I'm still mad about it, lol.

I think by 13 or 14 it's appropriate for girls to become interested in things like highlights. Just figure out how it can be done more affordably and have a talk about setting a yearly budget for it. I wouldn't take a teenager to the expensive stylist who does my highlights, but I might let her go to Hair Cuttery a couple of times per year.

You should be grateful to your mother for protecting your health and her wallet (to buy you other things, perhaps). No minor is entitled to a hair treatment, and those of the 80s were much more toxic than they are today. Are you also the sort of person who claims that Homecoming is significant event in a teen's life and you absolutely want your daughter attending it? A poster wrote that the other day on DCUM.

Really, are these the ridiculous things adults resent their parents for? What about actual abuse? If you're going to come back and pretend you're not that mad about it, then you shouldn't have joked about it in the first place. Some of us had actual problems with our parents.

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t allow any. They can get and pay for it when they are an adult.

This was my response to my DDs too. They have their entire adult lives to color their hair (if they so choose.)

Anonymous wrote:I worry about the chemicals. Too many cancer links. Thankfully my kids only asked casually once or twice but weren't really pushing for it yet.

source?

The “fun colors” aren’t toxic, I don’t think.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!
We actually go to an organic salon (they cover my jet black hair that is coming in gray) much better than the expensive salons I used to go to.

But yeah, I think you are all right. I will wait until she can’t live without it.

Where is this?

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!
We actually go to an organic salon (they cover my jet black hair that is coming in gray) much better than the expensive salons I used to go to.

But yeah, I think you are all right. I will wait until she can’t live without it.

Um, what? An organic salon? This makes zero sense. Do people just slap this label on anything and people will pay for it? CANCER IS ORGANIC, just FYI.

Anonymous wrote:When they can pay themselves (not being sarcastic).

+1

I get that you are worried about the cost, and these days lord knows you should be. But I desperately wanted a perm at that age (the 80s!) and my mother wouldn't let me get one and I'm still mad about it, lol.

I think by 13 or 14 it's appropriate for girls to become interested in things like highlights. Just figure out how it can be done more affordably and have a talk about setting a yearly budget for it. I wouldn't take a teenager to the expensive stylist who does my highlights, but I might let her go to Hair Cuttery a couple of times per year.

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t allow any. They can get and pay for it when they are an adult.

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The answer is never.

Wait until they are done growing. Hair chemicals can really mess with the endocrine system. Or just do henna