Anonymous wrote:I'm super sick of every website offering 10% off if I get on their never ending email spam list.

What's even worse is the website that email you just because you LOOKED at something on their website and didn't buy it, and are not on their email list! Like, I have a Loft account because I do shop there, but I am NOT on their email list, and they will still email me and say "These things you were looking at are still available but going fast!" or whatever. I did NOT give them permission to contact me about that. Airlines do the same thing, when you are just browsing at flights.

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Anonymous wrote:Tipping and reviews are optional. Why would you let them stress you out?

NP— it doesn’t cause stress, it’s just so annoying. Every single interaction these days, including every check out at the grocery store. And many places don’t give up. I get a survey after every doctors appt, and like 5 follow ups for each visit. I’ve had multiple visits recently, so every day I get multiple reminders/requests. And god forbid I actually give some honest feedback. Then I get phone calls asking information about why I didn’t rate them 10 out of 10 on every question.

DP. Yes! I had kind of a bad experience at my car dealership when I took it in for maintenance. I decided to respond when they emailed me about a review. The manager then called me and was VERY testy and argumentative - clearly, he wasn’t trying to smooth anything over. He called me again the following week. I felt harassed by then, so I no longer go there. I should never have bothered with the review, but at least I found a place I like better.

In a similar vein, I am annoyed by the grocery store asking to give to charity while I am trying to pay for the already overpriced groceries.

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I also don’t want to be asked to round up my bill to cover a grocery store’s selected charity. I will choose my own charities.

Same here. It’s always something like “Children’s Education.” Never a name of a specific charity. Ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:I've never been asked. Or maybe I just don't notice. The silver lining of inattentive ADHD, I suppose

You don't get emails? I just got two from my mammogram last week. Two!

I just completely ignore. This new society is really hard for people who can’t say no, but it’s fine for those of us who can. And I tip 3 kinds of people only- sit down restaurant servers, hair stylists, and nail technicians. Everyone else can pound sand.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sending you a giant chapstick for your ass in exchange for your post.grow some skin and patience. It’s ok to ignore requests. Requests are simply that, not a requirement.

Whoa there. Maybe you need a jar of petroleum for your own ass! OP was just venting about something that annoys the majority of people posting here.

I do agree that all you have to do is say a polite, "No thanks" to any request and go about your business. That's what I do.

I also do the same for requests for my phone number or email, "Sorry, I don't give that out." While a 10% off coupon might be nice I am not loyal to any particular merchandiser so it's of no real value to me. Keeping my contact info as private as possible is worth more.

What does annoy me is when I've politely told the clerk "No thanks" and they continue to badger me. One clerk confessed to me that corporate requires them to ask 3 times. Usually, after the first time I've said no thanks, I just ignore them and don't respond at all. They usually get the hint.

I’m sending you a giant chapstick for your ass in exchange for your post.grow some skin and patience. It’s ok to ignore requests. Requests are simply that, not a requirement.

Anonymous wrote:Tipping and reviews are optional. Why would you let them stress you out?

NP— it doesn’t cause stress, it’s just so annoying. Every single interaction these days, including every check out at the grocery store. And many places don’t give up. I get a survey after every doctors appt, and like 5 follow ups for each visit. I’ve had multiple visits recently, so every day I get multiple reminders/requests. And god forbid I actually give some honest feedback. Then I get phone calls asking information about why I didn’t rate them 10 out of 10 on every question.

Tipping and reviews are optional. Why would you let them stress you out?

I only do it for a coupon code or some other incentive.

Anonymous wrote:I'm super sick of every website offering 10% off if I get on their never ending email spam list.

And they’ve started requiring your phone number for that too.

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Anonymous wrote:I ask for money.

Seriously - I ask.

When a live person, such as a retail clerk, asks me to fill out a “quick survey” or log on to complete a review, I literally reply:

- how much does it pay? Because my time is valuable; you have to pay me if you want me to complete a survey.


I know the clerks don’t make policy. But they do report back to their managers if enough people say something. Say something.

The fact that they might like your feedback does not meanit it’s valuable enough to pay for. You’re just another rando in a huge sample, not some SME.

Just say no and move on.

you are missing the point.

Anonymous wrote:I ask for money.

Seriously - I ask.

When a live person, such as a retail clerk, asks me to fill out a “quick survey” or log on to complete a review, I literally reply:

- how much does it pay? Because my time is valuable; you have to pay me if you want me to complete a survey.


I know the clerks don’t make policy. But they do report back to their managers if enough people say something. Say something.

I've decided that when they ask me to sign up for a credit card, I am going to say "can you give me $100 right now"? If they are going to ask me unsolicited questions, I will ask unsolicited questions.

I'm super sick of every website offering 10% off if I get on their never ending email spam list.