Anonymous
Post 10/09/2024 03:43     Subject: Dammit

Anonymous wrote:Do good work and stand on your own merit instead of schmoozing someone else to go to bat for you. Maybe he was feeling used and it might not have anything to do with your husband's income.


Oh sweet summer child. You think that’s how promotions are decided?
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2024 18:07     Subject: Dammit

If you want a good example of someone whose overdressing and top notch jewelry clashed with a govt job look at Rochelle Walensky who also couldn’t be bothered to travel to work in DC from boston where she lives with her financier husband.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2024 16:28     Subject: Dammit

Anonymous wrote:I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!


Assume he won’t and keep working hard and asking for his supportive performance review.

Bfd

Everyone has some wealthy friends. Get over yourself
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2024 16:27     Subject: Dammit

I have never ever let HHI decide bonus or raises. I know that is wrong.

But there is an ICK factor when someone is struggling with two kids in college, car troubles, sick spouse who just gets beat out on paper for promotion by someone who is a multimillionaire who does not need the money. I did it anyhow.

thats why I rather not know
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2024 19:40     Subject: Dammit

Trolls be trolling. Cultivating is the wrong word Op