This is life--everyone makes choices about how they are going to follow rules. Good for your child to get used to it. And when these kids are in HS getting detention for being dress coded, they will still get into great colleges. So the dress code violations really don't matter in the big picture.

PS which school makes girls wear leggings under skirts? Cant they wear shorts under skirts if it's hot?

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What sort of dress codes violations did you see, OP?

The biggest one is that boys have to wear collared shirts and girls have to wear leggings under dresses. The boy in question wears a graphic t-shirt every day and the girl in question never wears leggings. I understand the grace bit, but this is hard to explain away, especially in private. DD doesn't judge, but she's curious as to what rules are ok to break.

I would almost guarantee that these are both sensory issues that the parents have discussed with the school.

In that case would the tees really need to be graphic tees? Why not just plain solid tees of a brand suitable for those with sensory issues?

Anonymous wrote:Does it really matter?

It does, otherwise what is the point of having a dress code? If they are not willing to enforce it equally then they might as well do away with it and have a free-for-all.

I knew a family that kept their kids in private while foreclosing their house. One kid was out of uniform and they did not have the money to fix it.

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What sort of dress codes violations did you see, OP?

The biggest one is that boys have to wear collared shirts and girls have to wear leggings under dresses. The boy in question wears a graphic t-shirt every day and the girl in question never wears leggings. I understand the grace bit, but this is hard to explain away, especially in private. DD doesn't judge, but she's curious as to what rules are ok to break.

I would almost guarantee that these are both sensory issues that the parents have discussed with the school.

If the school principal/teacher doesn’t correct them, why would they change?

Because some people think the rules don’t apply to them, and they are not held accountable. That’s a problem in society today, and contributes to the general breakdown of civility.

Probably ADA.

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What sort of dress codes violations did you see, OP?

The biggest one is that boys have to wear collared shirts and girls have to wear leggings under dresses. The boy in question wears a graphic t-shirt every day and the girl in question never wears leggings. I understand the grace bit, but this is hard to explain away, especially in private. DD doesn't judge, but she's curious as to what rules are ok to break.

IS your child targeted for getting violations for small things?

If there was a child constantly targeted, I would be concerned. If it is 2 kids who get a pass, be like Elsa - Let it Go.

At my school there are some boys who are allowed to wear basketball shorts/high socks while the other boys are in belts/slacks and it's because....their parents are alums of the school and friends with admin.

The answer to your daughter is "I'm not sure why Larla doesn't follow it, but that's between her family and the teacher. Our family's going to follow it and you're doing a great job."

Kind of surprised about leggings being required under dresses. Are you sure bike shorts or cartwheel shorts aren't just as acceptable?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it really matter?

Yes. Consistency is important.

Eh. So is not making mountains out of molehills.

Found the parent of the t-shirt-wearing kid!

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Anonymous wrote:Does it really matter?

Yes. Consistency is important.

Eh. So is not making mountains out of molehills.

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Anonymous wrote:

What sort of dress codes violations did you see, OP?

The biggest one is that boys have to wear collared shirts and girls have to wear leggings under dresses. The boy in question wears a graphic t-shirt every day and the girl in question never wears leggings. I understand the grace bit, but this is hard to explain away, especially in private. DD doesn't judge, but she's curious as to what rules are ok to break.

Those are big/obvious enough violations that my guess is there is something going on that you don't know about and isn't really any of your business.

Why are you so aggressive?

In what way is that aggressive? My point is that if you were worried about a dress code violation that was related to length of skirt of width of straps or length of hair or something, then it would fall more into the subjective category and sort of a "life isn't fair, deal with it" situation. But the examples you gave are very obvious. the kid either has leggings on or doesn't. So given that two specific kids continually violate very obvious dress code rules that don't require and subjectivity or judgement at all, it's a very fair assumption that the school is specifically allowing those two kids to violate the dress code. Why? No idea, but it's not my business or yours.

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Anonymous wrote:

What sort of dress codes violations did you see, OP?

The biggest one is that boys have to wear collared shirts and girls have to wear leggings under dresses. The boy in question wears a graphic t-shirt every day and the girl in question never wears leggings. I understand the grace bit, but this is hard to explain away, especially in private. DD doesn't judge, but she's curious as to what rules are ok to break.

Those are big/obvious enough violations that my guess is there is something going on that you don't know about and isn't really any of your business.

Why are you so aggressive?