Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 12:12     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Switch at semester.
And talk to your DD about how she’s doing just fine but the commute and “fit” are not compatible. Sew this in her mind as the dominate narrative so that she internalizes it.

Then when she is applying to colleges, she will
have something brief and innocuous to write in the section that asks to explain why you transferred schools if you did not attend the same school for all 4 years of high school. (Yes—there is an open-ended response for this.)
She can write a brief 2-3 sentences that explains that she was honored to be selected to attend, but the time commitment of the commute interfered with her ability to participate fully in her beloved after-school passion or treacle sport or volunteering at her local elementary school. Or she discovered that she could take XX course at her base school with a certain teacher whom students rave about, or or or….

Whatever the reason, make it a positive one about how she pivoted direction because she realized the advantages of attending home base school rather than staying at TJ for four years.


So…brainwash your child into believing a lie that can then be presented on college apps.


A long commute is not trivial.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 11:20     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


Although there are always a few that transfer back, it seems a lot lower than in years past these days.


These vague references make you sound like trump.

We don't have to make this about the new admissions process if you feel like the uptick in kids returning to base schools reflects poorly on it.
But stop it with the bullsh*t.
The number of kids returning to their base school has increased significantly, the administration does what it can to try to keep that number low but sometimes it is in the best interests of the student to return. It's not like half the class is returning but over 40 students in the incoming class of 2025 are not going to be in the graduating class of 2025, it used to be 4 or 5.

I want every kid to be successful but that success may not be possible at TJ for every student.


This is a huge undersell of the number of kids returning to base.

There were a couple of years surrounding Covid when the number of students dropping out was low, but historically the rate of returns was between 8-12% for most years.

486 students were admitted for Class of 2024 and 439 graduated. And that also includes admitted froshmores. And that was the last class to be admitted before the new admissions process.

It never "used to be 4 or 5". That's nonsense.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 11:15     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Out of curiousity- what is struggling for a freshman first quarter?
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 10:11     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

We transferred back to base school in Q1 of sophomore year.

It works as follows:

1) talk to your base school counselor (usually based on last name initial - so find that from front office)

2) make sure there are spots available for the courses that DC wants to enroll in at the base school - if not they would have to pick any that are available

3) after that works out - just go to TJ front office and ask them that DC wants to transfer to base school

4) transfer is quick 1-2 days

5) grades will transfer over.. so if DC is taking Algebra 2 in TJ and transfers to a Algebra 2 at base - the grades will transfer over

If DC is ok to move back - its all good. kids move on and in all honesty getting higher grades at base is a better outcome than B's and C's at TJ

one last consideration - in fall counselors are busy with senior year recommendations and everything.. so keep that in mind
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 09:59     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


Although there are always a few that transfer back, it seems a lot lower than in years past these days.


These vague references make you sound like trump.

We don't have to make this about the new admissions process if you feel like the uptick in kids returning to base schools reflects poorly on it.
But stop it with the bullsh*t.
The number of kids returning to their base school has increased significantly, the administration does what it can to try to keep that number low but sometimes it is in the best interests of the student to return. It's not like half the class is returning but over 40 students in the incoming class of 2025 are not going to be in the graduating class of 2025, it used to be 4 or 5.

I want every kid to be successful but that success may not be possible at TJ for every student.


Counselor presentation had 501 kids graduating in class of 2025. They admitted 550 if I remember correctly and there accepted 14 in sophomore class. That is 63 students who started at TJ but not graduating from TJ.



Some who stayed probably would have done better by transferring back. The larger grade size was a good idea hypothetically but not in reality.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 09:28     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Switch at semester.
And talk to your DD about how she’s doing just fine but the commute and “fit” are not compatible. Sew this in her mind as the dominate narrative so that she internalizes it.

Then when she is applying to colleges, she will
have something brief and innocuous to write in the section that asks to explain why you transferred schools if you did not attend the same school for all 4 years of high school. (Yes—there is an open-ended response for this.)
She can write a brief 2-3 sentences that explains that she was honored to be selected to attend, but the time commitment of the commute interfered with her ability to participate fully in her beloved after-school passion or treacle sport or volunteering at her local elementary school. Or she discovered that she could take XX course at her base school with a certain teacher whom students rave about, or or or….

Whatever the reason, make it a positive one about how she pivoted direction because she realized the advantages of attending home base school rather than staying at TJ for four years.


So…brainwash your child into believing a lie that can then be presented on college apps.


Well, yes.

What would you suggest?


I would suggest you teach your kid that sometimes things don’t work out and you grow and learn from the experience. I don’t suggest doing what you suggest…since it teaches your child nothing except to make up excuses to yourself rather than face reality.


This is rich coming from a forum full of posters that refuse to accept rejection from AAP and come here seeking advice on how to spin a narrative about their kid to secure a spot. Why the high horse now? I see no issue with a bright, motivated kid spinning the base-school-return if it means improving their application.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 09:22     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


Although there are always a few that transfer back, it seems a lot lower than in years past these days.


These vague references make you sound like trump.

We don't have to make this about the new admissions process if you feel like the uptick in kids returning to base schools reflects poorly on it.
But stop it with the bullsh*t.
The number of kids returning to their base school has increased significantly, the administration does what it can to try to keep that number low but sometimes it is in the best interests of the student to return. It's not like half the class is returning but over 40 students in the incoming class of 2025 are not going to be in the graduating class of 2025, it used to be 4 or 5.

I want every kid to be successful but that success may not be possible at TJ for every student.


Counselor presentation had 501 kids graduating in class of 2025. They admitted 550 if I remember correctly and there accepted 14 in sophomore class. That is 63 students who started at TJ but not graduating from TJ.

Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 09:04     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


Although there are always a few that transfer back, it seems a lot lower than in years past these days.


These vague references make you sound like trump.

We don't have to make this about the new admissions process if you feel like the uptick in kids returning to base schools reflects poorly on it.
But stop it with the bullsh*t.
The number of kids returning to their base school has increased significantly, the administration does what it can to try to keep that number low but sometimes it is in the best interests of the student to return. It's not like half the class is returning but over 40 students in the incoming class of 2025 are not going to be in the graduating class of 2025, it used to be 4 or 5.

I want every kid to be successful but that success may not be possible at TJ for every student.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 08:59     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


It's sad that people post this junk to help make room on the waiting list.


What waiting list? The waiting list has been closed for over a month.
TJ gets harder, not easier in the second semester
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 08:58     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Switch at semester.
And talk to your DD about how she’s doing just fine but the commute and “fit” are not compatible. Sew this in her mind as the dominate narrative so that she internalizes it.

Then when she is applying to colleges, she will
have something brief and innocuous to write in the section that asks to explain why you transferred schools if you did not attend the same school for all 4 years of high school. (Yes—there is an open-ended response for this.)
She can write a brief 2-3 sentences that explains that she was honored to be selected to attend, but the time commitment of the commute interfered with her ability to participate fully in her beloved after-school passion or treacle sport or volunteering at her local elementary school. Or she discovered that she could take XX course at her base school with a certain teacher whom students rave about, or or or….

Whatever the reason, make it a positive one about how she pivoted direction because she realized the advantages of attending home base school rather than staying at TJ for four years.


So…brainwash your child into believing a lie that can then be presented on college apps.


Well, yes.

What would you suggest?


I would suggest you teach your kid that sometimes things don’t work out and you grow and learn from the experience. I don’t suggest doing what you suggest…since it teaches your child nothing except to make up excuses to yourself rather than face reality.


She doesn't know it's an excuse.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 07:50     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


Although there are always a few that transfer back, it seems a lot lower than in years past these days.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 07:49     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.


It's sad that people post this junk to help make room on the waiting list.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2024 06:14     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Switch at semester.
And talk to your DD about how she’s doing just fine but the commute and “fit” are not compatible. Sew this in her mind as the dominate narrative so that she internalizes it.

Then when she is applying to colleges, she will
have something brief and innocuous to write in the section that asks to explain why you transferred schools if you did not attend the same school for all 4 years of high school. (Yes—there is an open-ended response for this.)
She can write a brief 2-3 sentences that explains that she was honored to be selected to attend, but the time commitment of the commute interfered with her ability to participate fully in her beloved after-school passion or treacle sport or volunteering at her local elementary school. Or she discovered that she could take XX course at her base school with a certain teacher whom students rave about, or or or….

Whatever the reason, make it a positive one about how she pivoted direction because she realized the advantages of attending home base school rather than staying at TJ for four years.


So…brainwash your child into believing a lie that can then be presented on college apps.


Well, yes.

What would you suggest?


I would suggest you teach your kid that sometimes things don’t work out and you grow and learn from the experience. I don’t suggest doing what you suggest…since it teaches your child nothing except to make up excuses to yourself rather than face reality.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2024 19:25     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Switch at semester.
And talk to your DD about how she’s doing just fine but the commute and “fit” are not compatible. Sew this in her mind as the dominate narrative so that she internalizes it.

Then when she is applying to colleges, she will
have something brief and innocuous to write in the section that asks to explain why you transferred schools if you did not attend the same school for all 4 years of high school. (Yes—there is an open-ended response for this.)
She can write a brief 2-3 sentences that explains that she was honored to be selected to attend, but the time commitment of the commute interfered with her ability to participate fully in her beloved after-school passion or treacle sport or volunteering at her local elementary school. Or she discovered that she could take XX course at her base school with a certain teacher whom students rave about, or or or….

Whatever the reason, make it a positive one about how she pivoted direction because she realized the advantages of attending home base school rather than staying at TJ for four years.


So…brainwash your child into believing a lie that can then be presented on college apps.


Well, yes.

What would you suggest?
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2024 17:08     Subject: Transferring back to base school from TJ

There are quite a few freshman that have started the process and then decided to stay this year after the parent meeting. If your child is drowning, switch now for 2nd quarter. Freshman year will ramp up a bit more during 2nd semester— if they are struggling now, it will likely only get harder.