Couldn’t be that the shower is for her daughter and not her?

It never even occurred to me to invite my mom’s friends to my shower. They just asked for a registry or sent gifts. I didn’t even invite my mom to my shower! It was social and just for our friends.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1. It may be that daughter wanted something small and didn’t want it extended to mom’s friends. Unless you are really close to the daughter (like an auntie) I wouldn’t think much of this. Just send a present and give you friend big congrats when the baby arrives.

Anonymous wrote:I know it hurts because you want to be a part of the celebration, but let it go. Maybe her DD insisted on a really small party - I’ve been to really small ones, like 8-10 of the closest friends.
Your friend is not mentioning it because she knows you would be there in a minute & she doesn’t want you to feel bad - so your friend is trying to be respectful of your feelings. Just let it go & enjoy seeing each other next time you get together.

This was my thought too. The DD wants her own friends there and your BFF didn’t want to hurt your feelings. She should’ve been honest with you but maybe she thought you’d then be upset with her DD. Or the DD’s MIL has some beef with you, like unbeknownst to you, you stole her boyfriend in college and you don’t remember her. Or some other reason. It hurts but try not to take it personally. If your friendship with your BFF is solid, then give her grace and let it go. People have all kinds of reasons that may have nothing to do with us.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

This. Or maybe it's just family - maybe the husband's family is hosting just for their extended family members. You have no idea, OP. Get over it.

This

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

THIS, 100%!!!

I don't really believe your story. Whether it's made-up or real, just rise above, as you should always do.

Or a shower hosted by the baby daddy’s family and you’ll be included in the one hosted by her mom (your bff) if she has one after seeing what gifts she gets at the other shower(s)

I guess you will Eventually see if there are pictures with other friends.

My very close friend did not invite me to her 40th birthday, because her sister is jealous of me.

I immediately became less good friends. I only have a finite amount and time and energy and it immediately went to people who were better friends.

Her H became gravely ill and was surely gonna die and needed lots of care. I, of course helped, which only made her sister hate me more. But I love her kids dearly and my kids are her kids BFFs.

He died and I stopped being friends … I was there for her kids through it all and still am but when someone doesn’t treat you well you move them to the back of the line.

Maybe this is a shower hosted by a friend for/of her DD. She may have separate friend groups and not invite her mom’s friends to all of her showers.

If the BFF of OP is hosting one later, perhaps that’s the one you are invited to.

This seems...trollish. Either you misunderstood the butt dial or she doesn't consider you a close friend.

OP you should buy her an extremely expensive gift and have it delivered.

Oh my, typical middle age woman trying to make everything about herself! This isn’t even your relative. This is not about you.

A lot of young people these days don’t want to invite their parents friends to their celebrations. And I get it, this is about her and the people she’s close to not people tangentially associated by her mother.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the shower is for the DD and her friends, not the mom’s friends.

+1 I would not want have wanted my mom's friends at my shower!

My shower was 90% my mom's friends, 10% mine, the rich aunties are the ones who give the best gifts!

I definitely had my mom’s friends at my shower, both wedding and baby. I think this is pretty normal and typical.