Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 13:49     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well now my list starts with "being married to someone who doesn't give me therapy homework"


Right. I can't imagine sharing how I was feeling and my partner snapping back at me to name 5 things that make me happy and then get mad when I don't and don't include them in the list. WTF


Who is “snapping back?” Way to read stuff in; it says a lot about you and nothing about OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 13:45     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Why are you asking a generally unhappy man what makes him happy immediately after he just told you alcohol does not make him happy?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 13:24     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
DH would have a long lost. So many things make him happy/bring him joy. I’d have a hard time coming up with 5. Some people are just kind of meh about life. It makes DH crazy that I don’t have any “passion” interests. I could see many husbands feeling the same as I do.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 10:49     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Can some of you actually ask and report back to see if you are right?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 10:09     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
For me:

Wife and DS
Friends/family
Sex
Staying fit/healthy
The lake or beach
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:33     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:A H's perspective

The kids
My wife
My parents and family in general
Friends
Travel / the beach

This is exactly what my DH would say in order, except your list is missing Sports. So he’d probably lump me and the kids together and put sports as number 2.

On any given day, though, I might get bumped for the Celtics.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:30     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:Well now my list starts with "being married to someone who doesn't give me therapy homework"


Right. I can't imagine sharing how I was feeling and my partner snapping back at me to name 5 things that make me happy and then get mad when I don't and don't include them in the list. WTF
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:29     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Me
Our sex life/dynamic
Kid
Dogs
Travel/Good Food

Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:26     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Well now my list starts with "being married to someone who doesn't give me therapy homework"
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:25     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:What would he say? My husband is not generally a happy person and after he got done telling me one day how alcohol doesn’t make him happy, I asked him to name 5 things that do make him happy ( bc I sincerely wanted to know).
His response :
1. The animals
2. The children
3.
4.
5.

And that was that.

I’d be irritated that it didn’t occur to him to separate the kids and animals to get to 4 or 5.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:23     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think Dh would say:

1. Me
2. The outdoors/hiking/fishing
3. His friends (he's had many since childhood)
4. Money (making it, investing it, managing it, saving it)
5. Sports (playing and watching)


Ok, I'm this PP. I asked my DH. After repeating "I don't know" in an exasperated voice about 4 times, I got this: "You, friends, money, independence." When I asked what "independence" means he said "I don't know." That was the best I could get out of him, lol.

Maybe love of outdoors and making money are ways he feels free or independent.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:20     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Anonymous wrote:What would he say? My husband is not generally a happy person and after he got done telling me one day how alcohol doesn’t make him happy, I asked him to name 5 things that do make him happy ( bc I sincerely wanted to know).
His response :
1. The animals
2. The children
3.
4.
5.

And that was that.


Are you concerned that he could only come up with 2 things or that you weren't on his list?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 09:00     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
He'd say, do we really have to do this?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 08:48     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Asked my DH he says
Me
Our DC
His house
His work
Travelling with us

Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 08:47     Subject: If you were to ask your H to name 5 things that make him happy…
Kids and me, extended family, friends and hosting events, church, traveling, doing lots of fun things with a bunch of variety (sporting events, plays, movies, comedy shows, etc).