Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 15:02     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
Yes, but not in a disappointed way but in a sad way. She was married twice, widowed at 50 and died a few years later. But, she was my first real love and that’s hard to forget.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 13:26     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
I'm with a much better woman now but I still think about her most days.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 12:56     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
I have a friend like this. She is so annoying because she will bring up old relationships and these are with guys that treated her awful with messy break-ups. She has a very disordered, delusional memory of these men. We all had to sit there and nurse her heartbreak. Now, years later, she seems to forget how they broke up with her and the awful things that were said.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 12:54     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
I'm a 54-year old woman and after I met my husband 25+ years ago, I never thought about any old BFs. Never. Out of the 3 serious-semi-serious actual relationships, one --if I do think of it---is with kind of disgust--like wth? was I thinking.

Men don't have to settle like many women do. If they want to marry you, they will.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 10:07     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.


Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.


He’s right, you don’t know how most men are at all.
I certainly don’t know the names or have a clear memory of the hundred or so women I kissed between 17 and 28 and I’m sure 99% of them have forgotten me, but any relationship that ended took me a good year or so to get over and I still think about every one of them from time to time for different reasons.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:48     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.


Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.


First love. So pps are basically correct. All the randos after not so much.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:45     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.


Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:38     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Not the one that got away but a relationship that fell apart due to my own stupidity and relative immaturity. To date it is my only regret.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:16     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:There seem to be more than a few posters on this board who insist that men are sex-seeking automatons with no further feelings. My experience is that men feel very, very deeply, but they don’t show or disperse their emotions like women do. Like a man is not going to think frequently about every girlfriend they ever had, but they could have a true love that they think about often. Like when my MIL died, FIL was not a weepy mess or something but it was clear he missed her very much.


That was a long marriage^^, dope. Not some woman he banged on the side 15 years ago
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:13     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
There seem to be more than a few posters on this board who insist that men are sex-seeking automatons with no further feelings. My experience is that men feel very, very deeply, but they don’t show or disperse their emotions like women do. Like a man is not going to think frequently about every girlfriend they ever had, but they could have a true love that they think about often. Like when my MIL died, FIL was not a weepy mess or something but it was clear he missed her very much.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 09:05     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
No. They really don’t sit around thinking about you. Maybe right after the breakup but not years down the road. Maybe just fleetingly if they run into someone with the same name or background.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 08:08     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Hey, I never stop thinking of her, so yes, it happens.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 22:30     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most men have zero recall. And yeah some AP they banged a decade ago they certainly can’t even remember amongst the others. lol


OP here - No, the situation was that we dated, got reacquainted many years later and hooked up until I realized he wanted me to be his AP and I broke things off. A year later he contacted me again, I didn’t respond.


Skank. Hooking up with a married man. Tsk tsk
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 22:02     Subject: Re:Men who still think about the one who got away
Anonymous wrote:Most men have zero recall. And yeah some AP they banged a decade ago they certainly can’t even remember amongst the others. lol


OP here - No, the situation was that we dated, got reacquainted many years later and hooked up until I realized he wanted me to be his AP and I broke things off. A year later he contacted me again, I didn’t respond.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 20:44     Subject: Men who still think about the one who got away
Ouch