Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:05     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Strictly speaking a young teen shouldn’t be in a full length dress anyway. It’s age inappropriate, at least by old WASPy standards (like putting a toddler in a tux).


My 3 yr old nephew LOVES wearing his bowtie. He looks outrageously adorable in it. He's an excellent dancer and loves to toast people too - honestly, everyone should invite him to their wedding.

What SHOULD a young teen be in at a black tie wedding by old WASP standards?


Op here, echoing the question.


Most people don't invite kids to black tie-weddings, so this is interesting. I think a short dress (like knee-length or slightly above) would be more appropriate at that age. I would not expect a 13 year old to be wearing a floor length gown.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:04     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Strictly speaking a young teen shouldn’t be in a full length dress anyway. It’s age inappropriate, at least by old WASPy standards (like putting a toddler in a tux).


My 3 yr old nephew LOVES wearing his bowtie. He looks outrageously adorable in it. He's an excellent dancer and loves to toast people too - honestly, everyone should invite him to their wedding.

What SHOULD a young teen be in at a black tie wedding by old WASP standards?


Op here, echoing the question.


Because the bride and groom selected a dress code, and it is black tie. There’s a socially accepted form of black tie. This is called “manners”, not conforming to the patriarchy. The couple chose it.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:46     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Strictly speaking a young teen shouldn’t be in a full length dress anyway. It’s age inappropriate, at least by old WASPy standards (like putting a toddler in a tux).


My 3 yr old nephew LOVES wearing his bowtie. He looks outrageously adorable in it. He's an excellent dancer and loves to toast people too - honestly, everyone should invite him to their wedding.

What SHOULD a young teen be in at a black tie wedding by old WASP standards?


Op here, echoing the question.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:45     Subject: Re:Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.



+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.


What kind of Orthodics do you have that they fit into Keds?! Mine are way too bulky to fit into shoes like that.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:43     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you just buy her a new formal dress that fits, wtf?


It fits, it just went from being floor length to being more like ankle length or slightly above. Looks fine for her age.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:40     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you just buy her a new formal dress that fits, wtf?


This

there’s a dress code
You don’t have to follow it if you don’t go
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:39     Subject: Re:Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.



+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.


Good for you! What does the bolded mean?
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:38     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:Combat boots are fine.

No one cares what WASPs think


MIL would potentially have a heart attack seeing combat boots, otherwise I actually kind of like the look.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:37     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:Man, Converse are terrible for flat feet. Get her some orthopedic inserts.


She has those, thanks for looking out for us.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:35     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Kids wear sneakers to their own weddings now.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:34     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Combat boots are fine.

No one cares what WASPs think
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 13:17     Subject: Re:Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.



+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.


Good for you! I would not judge you. I actually am more likely to judge someone that looks like they are in pain from their footwear choice
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 13:08     Subject: Re:Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.



+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 13:07     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Oh I think this is more than fine for a teen, assuming the dress and overall grooming are up to the occasion. I think it works with her physical needs and is less stuffy than making her find some flats she probably won’t like anyway!
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 12:27     Subject: Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?
Man, Converse are terrible for flat feet. Get her some orthopedic inserts.