Anonymous
09/16/2024 11:42
Subject: Regretting team choice
Grass is always greener. Don’t fool yourself into thinking there is a great situation anywhere in the region. It’s a myth, and even within clubs there is a lot of variation.
Anonymous
09/16/2024 11:40
Subject: Regretting team choice
Challenge your kid to be the vehicle of change for the rest of the team. I'm not sure why kids feel like they inherit a team's culture when in fact they can find it in themselves to be that leader. Not to sound like a disney movie, but I've seen teams evolve and change quickly if they have something/someone to follow.
Anonymous
09/16/2024 10:27
Subject: Re:Regretting team choice
Anonymous wrote:If switch in spring, presume still have to pay first club full years fees and they don’t prorate refund back to you? What about new team, can you pay prorated fee for just spring fees or will they ask for full year 2-3k?
It’s very dependent on the club. Read the fine print, some change a one time fee for leaving the season early.
As for new team, when we received an offer mid-year (before start of spring), it was prorated.
Anonymous
09/16/2024 10:23
Subject: Re:Regretting team choice
If switch in spring, presume still have to pay first club full years fees and they don’t prorate refund back to you? What about new team, can you pay prorated fee for just spring fees or will they ask for full year 2-3k?
Anonymous
09/16/2024 09:58
Subject: Regretting team choice
Start reaching out to the clubs now. Spend some real time looking at your options and then decide accordingly. It's not uncommon to switch clubs mid year. Parents and players are almost never sad they did the mid year move. The biggest problem is money for most. I would finish the season and if a better spring situation opened up for my player we'd switch clubs over winter. As long as you are paid up at your current club they cannot hold your player card. Best of luck.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 21:52
Subject: Regretting team choice
The league does not control the coaching staff. Obviously, they meant club.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:SYC.... SYC is the ONLY club in this area with that many turnovers.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Also, if you switch now, you will know who your new coach is. Otherwise, waiting until spring tryouts, there is no real guarantee who the coach might be come next 25-26 season. This is our 4th year and the fall coach has switched for 3 of those years on us.
League?
OMG you are so anti-SYC. The person asked what league and your answer is SYC. SYC isn't even a league and why it's even brought into the thread only shows how burned you are by SYC. Let it go.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 21:29
Subject: Regretting team choice
Year long commitment my a**, this is a service we are paying for.
VYSA has an arbitration process to force clubs to release player's cards when they switch teams. As long as you communicate with the Club Director your poor experience, you should be let go. You might not get a refund. But VYSA can force transfer after 5 days of club inaction and your financial obligation is satisfied.
VYSA has an arbitration process to force clubs to release player's cards when they switch teams. As long as you communicate with the Club Director your poor experience, you should be let go. You might not get a refund. But VYSA can force transfer after 5 days of club inaction and your financial obligation is satisfied.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 20:51
Subject: Regretting team choice
What club OP? And are the older age groups successful? Maybe there is a positive path ahead.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 20:40
Subject: Regretting team choice
You can switch whenever you like, assuming the other team will have you.
If they play in the same league, player card can become an issue. If you're willing to pay your current club for the entire year - they can't hold your card. Some (most?) clubs will do some sort of pro-rated amount if you leave early. They don't like to advertise it, but some do.
Things to consider:
1.) You're burning a bridge by leaving early. If you have no intention of returning to this club ever again, that might not be a big deal. Some clubs are more vindictive than others.
2.) You made a year long commitment that you're backing out of. You should do what you feel is best for your child, but you are also teaching them how to deal with these situations in the future - careful with what lesson you're teaching.
3.) What's your goal here? What's your child's goal? They choose to stay for a reason, are THEY now second guessing things or just you?
How to make the best of a bad situation? What age are we talking about? You can get private training, you can sign up for fun camps during breaks, you can guest play for other teams in your club.
If they play in the same league, player card can become an issue. If you're willing to pay your current club for the entire year - they can't hold your card. Some (most?) clubs will do some sort of pro-rated amount if you leave early. They don't like to advertise it, but some do.
Things to consider:
1.) You're burning a bridge by leaving early. If you have no intention of returning to this club ever again, that might not be a big deal. Some clubs are more vindictive than others.
2.) You made a year long commitment that you're backing out of. You should do what you feel is best for your child, but you are also teaching them how to deal with these situations in the future - careful with what lesson you're teaching.
3.) What's your goal here? What's your child's goal? They choose to stay for a reason, are THEY now second guessing things or just you?
How to make the best of a bad situation? What age are we talking about? You can get private training, you can sign up for fun camps during breaks, you can guest play for other teams in your club.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 20:38
Subject: Regretting team choice
Anonymous wrote:DC has been playing with the same club for a few years. They are on the top team and one of the strongest players. But the team has had its share of struggles and we have had concerns with training and coaching. Last spring DC attended practice and tried out at a couple of other clubs, and was offered a spot on a team that plays at the same (high) level.
DC ultimately opted to stay with their current team/club, and is now regretting it. The team is struggling and it doesn’t seem like things are going to get better. DC is frustrated and now wishing they had moved to the other team. I wanted it to be DC’s decision, but wondering if I should have nudged a bit more as I saw the writing on the wall. The other club/team is not amazing, but the players seemed more dedicated and the training seemed more effective.
So now what? It’s obviously too late to change for this year. How can DC make the best of a bad situation? Can we go back to that other team and say we made the wrong choice and hope DC could get considered for next year? Anything we can do to make sure DC is still developing and enjoying the sport? I would hate to see their love get killed by low team morale and a poor training environment.
I’m wondering if our kids are on the same team and perhaps we carpool together? 😂 If not, my DC is on a similar team, and we also wish we’d pushed moving to another team. My DC is probably more middle of the pack, but DC loves soccer and wants to play with other kids who are competitive and want to win. That’s not this team.
My DC really likes the kids on the team, and the coach is doing his best, but DC feels like at least half of the kids don’t really care if they win or lose. At the level/league they’re playing in, it makes for some devastating loses. I think we will talk to DC about making a move for next year, especially if the top kids leave (and I’m sure they will if the year continues as it’s begun). Until then, if DC wants, we’ll focus on getting DC some 1:1 coaching or other training outside of practice to help with development.
It’s frustrating to be “stuck,” and I’m sorry you’re in the same boat (and maybe on the same team).
Anonymous
09/15/2024 20:30
Subject: Regretting team choice
So if you’re willing to give up your money, you can switch clubs mid year? I’m not OP but also have a DC who would consider switching mid year - switching within the same league. I have seen one other kid do it - left their team mid year (after the winter break), sat out a few games, and then played for a new team. It seems possible. Just wasn’t sure exactly how acceptable it is.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 20:18
Subject: Regretting team choice
The choices are really- they can keep your player card or your money. Not both.
Anonymous
09/15/2024 19:47
Subject: Regretting team choice
If the other club you switch to plays in the same division as your current club, chances are they won't release your player card. There is no incentive for them to let your kid leave to another club and turn around beat them the next time they play.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Anonymous
09/15/2024 19:47
Subject: Regretting team choice
It’s his path not yours, he is happy get over it
Anonymous
09/15/2024 19:47
Subject: Regretting team choice
Anonymous wrote:SYC.... SYC is the ONLY club in this area with that many turnovers.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Also, if you switch now, you will know who your new coach is. Otherwise, waiting until spring tryouts, there is no real guarantee who the coach might be come next 25-26 season. This is our 4th year and the fall coach has switched for 3 of those years on us.
League?
OMG you are so anti-SYC. The person asked what league and your answer is SYC. SYC isn't even a league and why it's even brought into the thread only shows how burned you are by SYC. Let it go.