Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 21:31     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:Problem is word spreads and strangers show up and call their friends. So you need security, car parking etc.
https://youtu.be/DcPIQB96WJo?feature=shared


Wouldn’t OP be watching who comes in? I see no problem having a few friends over as long as no alcohol is available and you can keep an eye on them. Don’t call it a party.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 21:30     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Ah, nothing like parents living through their children.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 21:14     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take the alcohol out and tell him he needs to make it clear to his friends that this isn’t a “party” just a get together.

They are freshman. It should be fine.


I would be ok with the 10 or so friends that are going to dinner. I don’t even know all of those kids. I think there are 3 new friends I have never met before.


These people are being so dramatic. This is fine. Just manage it and go down there every couple bits. Make sure all guests go through front door.

When my daughter was a freshman all of her “parties” were small groups of her friends and maybe a few extra. 6-12 kids. Nothing weird happened until end of the year or sophomore when the actual partying ramped up
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 20:42     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Problem is word spreads and strangers show up and call their friends. So you need security, car parking etc.
https://youtu.be/DcPIQB96WJo?feature=shared
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 20:11     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Do not call it a party.
Tell him he can have up to X friends over to hang out and you will order pizza and supple snacks and soda. It is important to label it as a “hang out” or “hang” and NOT a party. Party now means something different.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 20:01     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
It actually doesn’t feel as big as it sounds.


Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:51     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:I have a son in high school. His friends are making plans for homecoming. One mom took the lead and made a dinner reservation. However, there are some kids we know from elementary or other kids the boys have known for a while who also want to be included. I don’t even know who made this reservation except my kid is included.

I’m considering allowing my son to have an after party. We have a 15,000sf house and our basement is 6000sf. There is a bar down there though with a lot of expensive alcohol. In years past, my kid has had friends over (up to 10) and I never worried or thought about kids drinking alcohol from our bar. It gives me pause because this is now high school.

How do after parties work?
Is it mostly word of mouth?

DS has never even invited any girls to his birthday party before. Just typing this out sounds like it may be a bad idea.

I admit I was a bit of a party girl when I was a teen and I would not want my son to be at the parties that I went to when I was a teen.


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Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:46     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
But what's the point? Let them go to HOCO and that's all. Invite one or two for a sleepover if you must. No need to double party as a freakin' freshman!!
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:39     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
We put a fingerprint lock on a closet in our basement so we can secure the alcohol.

Personally, I think it sounds fun and manageable if you get a few other moms to come hang out with you upstairs and check in now and again.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:38     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:Take the alcohol out and tell him he needs to make it clear to his friends that this isn’t a “party” just a get together.

They are freshman. It should be fine.


I would be ok with the 10 or so friends that are going to dinner. I don’t even know all of those kids. I think there are 3 new friends I have never met before.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:37     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:In a similar place with freshman DD. We talked through it, and she ended up saying it was a bad idea. Per DD, kids she barely knows/doesn't know will show up, even if she doesn't invite them. Even if I make kids leave their backpacks (they'll 100% sneak in alcohol if you don't), they will hide small bottles in their clothes and spike their non-alcoholic drinks. She said you can guarantee that there will be kids vaping. In the end, she said it's just too risky, and she doesn't want kids wrecking the house.


I wasn’t even thinking about the wrecking of the house. I was just thinking if we should remove our alcohol from the bar.

This after party seems like a bad idea. I don’t want or need strangers at our house. The boys can go to dinner and to the dance as planned.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:37     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Take the alcohol out and tell him he needs to make it clear to his friends that this isn’t a “party” just a get together.

They are freshman. It should be fine.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:35     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
Anonymous wrote:C- on the troll effort. You should have went with a more believable square footage


It actually doesn’t feel as big as it sounds. If is a good hang out space for teens though. Like I posted, we have had a max of 10 boys.

There is a bar, bedroom and exercise room so that takes up square footage. There are also 1.5 bathrooms down there.

Some kids do say we live in a mansion when they come over.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:32     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
C- on the troll effort. You should have went with a more believable square footage
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2024 19:02     Subject: What happens at a hoco after party?
I can't believe you even need to ask if you need to remove the alcohol. Think about how many people can fit in 6000 sq feet and outside.