Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh no OP. You should not have forced a feeding tube on her if she gave a thumbs down. ☹️
My father was very mentally alert and had cancer and went into hospice with all his mental faculties and was very cognizant of what was to come. It’s hard. They manage pain and anxiety. It’s scary but it is what it is.
You people are truly disgusting. Jumping and attacking me and my family like a bunch of ugly shews. You don’t know the entire situation. She changed her mind. Wants more time to say goodbye to family, including people not in town yet but traveling to see her today.
Good riddance to you ugly people. Thanks to the RN for answering the question. The rest of you couldn’t, just jumped in to give your ugly unsolicited opinions.
Anonymous wrote:Oh no OP. You should not have forced a feeding tube on her if she gave a thumbs down. ☹️
My father was very mentally alert and had cancer and went into hospice with all his mental faculties and was very cognizant of what was to come. It’s hard. They manage pain and anxiety. It’s scary but it is what it is.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s the process I’m concerned about. Your father was not alert it seems. Mine is. That’s my concern.
RN here. This seems to be a good question to ask their care team. They will be in hospice if they aren't already. They will be kept comfortable. They will be given meds so they aren't suffering until they pass.
Not in hospice yet, still in ICU. thank you for answering
Anonymous wrote:If your mom gave the thumbs down, she should not have been convinced to do something else. This is hard, OP, I know. But she needs hospice at this point so she can pass peacefully.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s the process I’m concerned about. Your father was not alert it seems. Mine is. That’s my concern.
RN here. This seems to be a good question to ask their care team. They will be in hospice if they aren't already. They will be kept comfortable. They will be given meds so they aren't suffering until they pass.
Not in hospice yet, still in ICU. thank you for answering
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s the process I’m concerned about. Your father was not alert it seems. Mine is. That’s my concern.
RN here. This seems to be a good question to ask their care team. They will be in hospice if they aren't already. They will be kept comfortable. They will be given meds so they aren't suffering until they pass.
Anonymous wrote:If your mom gave the thumbs down, she should not have been convinced to do something else. This is hard, OP, I know. But she needs hospice at this point so she can pass peacefully.
Anonymous wrote:If your mom gave the thumbs down, she should not have been convinced to do something else. This is hard, OP, I know. But she needs hospice at this point so she can pass peacefully.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re right but she’s alert. That’s what scares me. She is not totally vegetative, not at all.
Is she alert enough to discuss her wishes? I had to choose to stop care for my dad knowing full well it would result in his death. Thankfully I also knew he wouldn't want to live with what was needed to keep him alive (colostomy and feeding tube). It was the hardest yet easiest choice I've ever made. In the years since I've never once looked back and wished I had chosen a different option.
Thank you for sharing. Was he able to discuss?
She’s not able to speak, but she became agitated when the doctor mentioned a feeding tube and said no (thumbs down). We talked her into it for a few days but I know it wasn’t her preference
Why would you do this when she clearly wanted otherwise? Sounds horribly disrespectful. Who was she put on the feeding tube for? Her or someone else?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re right but she’s alert. That’s what scares me. She is not totally vegetative, not at all.
Is she alert enough to discuss her wishes? I had to choose to stop care for my dad knowing full well it would result in his death. Thankfully I also knew he wouldn't want to live with what was needed to keep him alive (colostomy and feeding tube). It was the hardest yet easiest choice I've ever made. In the years since I've never once looked back and wished I had chosen a different option.
Thank you for sharing. Was he able to discuss?
She’s not able to speak, but she became agitated when the doctor mentioned a feeding tube and said no (thumbs down). We talked her into it for a few days but I know it wasn’t her preference
Anonymous wrote:You’re right but she’s alert. That’s what scares me. She is not totally vegetative, not at all.