My wedding to my first husband was amazing. We divorced because I wanted to and there were no children, no cheating, no abuse, nothing truly bad, we just were not a good match. We are not in touch but I don't hate him, so maybe that's why I can still have fond memories of that day? I think of the location, my friends, and my dad walking me down the aisle (he has since passed away). I'm remarried and very happy with kids but we eloped so while our wedding was great I don't have the memories of friends and family like I do for the first one.

Beautiful and meaningful day. Not a trigger. What’s a bit sad is thinking about how I used to look at those photos and think it would last forever. But minus the mythical part, it was lovely and many people told us it was the best wedding they’d been to (not particularly fancy, just meaningful).

We divorced due to XH’s mental health issues which is not something I could control or change. I wish it had been different but I’m also ok now. The kids, that’s my one regret — I don’t know if they will be ok or not.

Yes, wedding is still a fond memory. It wasn't extravagant but beautiful, warm, and included involvement by family. It was the last occasion that involved several beloved family members before they passed away or became very sick.

No. It’s very painful, even 20 years later.

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Anonymous wrote:Wedding is the sole reason for a lot of marriages all over the world.

I would like to hear from people who didn't have a grand wedding but found lifelong happiness in their marriage.

My parents got married at city hall over 50 years ago, and they are still very much in love.

My in laws didn’t have a wedding; they were married at city hall too. They are the happiest, most devoted and loving couple I’ve ever seen. They have been together since they were teenagers in the 1960s.

Amazing Weddings have nothing to do with the groom.

Princess Party is a better term than Amazing Wedding.

Also, those sorts of weddings tend to promote divorce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding is the sole reason for a lot of marriages all over the world.

I would like to hear from people who didn't have a grand wedding but found lifelong happiness in their marriage.

I got married in the courthouse with some witnesses and then went out to lunch. We had smaller celebrations spread out with no ceremony so we could celebrate with other people, but I never had a big white dress or anything traditional. Since we have been married people have come and gone - my DH is still my rock and favorite person. Even when we go through harder times.

You're on the wrong thread, Barb

Anonymous wrote:Wedding is the sole reason for a lot of marriages all over the world.

I would like to hear from people who didn't have a grand wedding but found lifelong happiness in their marriage.

I got married in the courthouse with some witnesses and then went out to lunch. We had smaller celebrations spread out with no ceremony so we could celebrate with other people, but I never had a big white dress or anything traditional. Since we have been married people have come and gone - my DH is still my rock and favorite person. Even when we go through harder times.

I have much fonder memories of my engagement surprise trip/the proposal and the 3 week European honeymoon then the actual wedding.

I also was happier at the birth of my kids,

My wedding day is mot even in top 10 days of my life. I have more fun at other people’s weddings. lol I remember stress leading up to it and I’m not an “all eyes on me” personality-even though I’m outgoing.

Married 26 years. Happy.

I have fond memories of my wedding and even of much of my marriage, and I regret it fell to pieces.

Anonymous wrote:Wedding is the sole reason for a lot of marriages all over the world.

I would like to hear from people who didn't have a grand wedding but found lifelong happiness in their marriage.

I had 17 people at my wedding. We married at a waterfall, and had a catered lunch reception at my brother's house,. I wore a gown and had a nice bouquet and we a fun wedding cake. It was so great.
My husband died right before our 14th wedding anniversary, but I think we would still be together and happy!

Anonymous wrote:I've heard that some people know on their wedding day that they're making a mistake. If that happened to you, how do you remember it?

I told my sister my reservations, but she gave me a shot of vodka and shoved me down the aisle

My ex BIL was a real piece of work, but my sis in law's wedding was unexpectedly one of the last big events my FIL was at. So there are tons of nice photos of him dancing with his daughter, dancing with my MIL, hanging out with my husband, that are really nice to have. We can't go back and undo ex BIL's crappy behavior but we can celebrate the nice moments on that day.

Anonymous wrote:I've heard that some people know on their wedding day that they're making a mistake. If that happened to you, how do you remember it?

That’s me. I don’t remember it: I never think about it as if it never happened.

I had a picture perfect wedding. I was not happy that day. I am divorced. I wish I never did it. I don’t even think about it though. It is not even a memory really. I think of it as if it never happened. I wish that was my reality.