Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 20:35     Subject: Re:Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

I’ve got four kids eleven and under. Weekday night? Dream on!
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 20:28     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

i love it!

its an excuse to get out of the house. DH can watch DS and they can have a boys night.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 20:27     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We actually prefer to do drinks or dinner with a friend at 8pm (or later) once the kids are in bed. We can actually make that work.

All our friends without kids want to do dinner at 630pm! No bueno.


Do you go to work the next day?


Yes, but I’m not an alcoholic. I can handle 1-2 drinks on a weeknight with some food and still be up by 630am to begin the morning routine.


The alcoholics will drink you under the table and be at work the next day like nothing happened. The rare drinker is going to have a raging hangover after 2 drinks on a weeknight.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:46     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

I get it, OP. I work longer hours than most of my friends. I’m at work by 6am and have to be ready for an 10-11 hour day. I can’t go out on weeknights.

I’m grateful they keep asking me, though. I’m sure they are aware I’ll always say no, but I feel included because they think of inviting me. It’s nice.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:41     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I wish more people would be willing to do things during the week so weekends could be family time.

Same!
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:17     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

We do get a lot of dinners or drinks during the week because the weekends get so busy. 0-3 drinks (which seems to be about what is consumed) isn't enough to cause a hang over or issues for the next day. We do weekend stuff too, but our weekday get togethers seem to be the most well attended.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:08     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM parent and can’t make weeknight drinks work! I’m driving kids to activities all an afternoon and evening.


WAH parent used to be us until one kid could drive. Spouse drives other kid.


^ our child free best friends used to come over after kids were in bed midweek. And sometimes parents in the neighborhood. We were a lot more social when kids were younger. We were the “meeting/party house”. Now mid-50s and my couch and Netflix after picking up kid at 9pm from practice is all we want to do during the week. Share a glass of wine, etc
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:06     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:If you can make time for professional drinks why can’t you make time for personal drinks?


Old friends don't have anything I can make money from.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:05     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

It’s nice you’re being invited! What the heck.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:04     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM parent and can’t make weeknight drinks work! I’m driving kids to activities all an afternoon and evening.


WAH parent same here. Spouse drives other kid.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:00     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We actually prefer to do drinks or dinner with a friend at 8pm (or later) once the kids are in bed. We can actually make that work.

All our friends without kids want to do dinner at 630pm! No bueno.


Do you go to work the next day?


Yes, but I’m not an alcoholic. I can handle 1-2 drinks on a weeknight with some food and still be up by 630am to begin the morning routine.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 17:08     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

They ask. It isn't as if you can't offer something else.
Be glad they asked. You should ungrateful.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 17:05     Subject: Re:Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I will honestly go out any time of day or week I am invited if at all possible. Got up early to have coffee with my friend before work last week.


I wish more people were up for this!


I’ll have coffee but drinks leave me tired the next day and work is too intense these days.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 17:04     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

I am a working parent and wish friends invited me out more. Would love to have your problem OP!
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 17:03     Subject: Working parent vent. I hate when old friends ask me out for mid week plans. Not fun

I sort of get this. Weekdays are busy