Anonymous
09/17/2024 13:22
Subject: Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?
Put the kid to bed 30min earlier?
Anonymous
09/16/2024 23:07
Subject: Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?
Anonymous wrote:Child’s parents have roughly 75/25 custody.
Child attends school near Parent A with 75 custody, spends about 2 days a week with Parent B
Parent A and Parent B live about a half hour away from each other
As it stands now, Child will often spend two weekdays with Parent B, which means Child misses out on at least a half-hour of sleep two days a week that they would get at Parent A’s house, in order to drive to and make it to school on time
Parent A isn’t willing to allow Child to exclusively spend Friday and Saturday nights during the school year with Parent B because they feel they will then miss out on all of the fun things that happen on the weekend that are harder to do at the end of a school day during the week
What should be prioritized? The routine of Child waking up in close proximity to school on weekdays during the school year? Or, prioritizing Parent A having quality time with Child during the weekend at the expense of this routine?
So, you want to take away all overnights over 30 minutes of sleep?
Anonymous
09/10/2024 13:03
Subject: Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think Parent A should establish a bedtime that allows the child to wake up at a time that allows them to travel from either house.
Then I would vote for every Thursday, and every other Friday and Saturday night.
Or every Thursday/Friday.
Either way weekends are shared equally.
That’s absurd and kid get no time with parent.
What I am saying is if kid needs 11 hours of sleep, and needs to wake up at 7:00 a.m. on Parent B days, then Parent A needs to put them to bed at 8:00, so that their biological clock is set to work at both houses. Yes, maybe it's annoying to have to wake up at 7:00, but you do what's right for your kid, which means facilitating things going smoothly at Parent B's house so that connection is strengthened.
If Parent B has agreed to 2 nights a week, then having 2 weekday, and 2 weekend nights over every 2 week period is what makes sense. That way parent B gets to know about things like HW, and meets the teacher, etc . . . and also has a chance to do fun weekend things. Whether that's Th/F/S one week and just Th the next, or Th/F nights (until late Saturday) every week, probably depends on both how it's written, and on activities.
Anonymous
09/10/2024 12:32
Subject: Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?
Sorry OP - you are going to need to try harder to come up with reasons kid should be deprived of time with Dad. This commute sounds 100% reasonable.
Anonymous
09/10/2024 12:16
Subject: Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?
Weekends get split equally.
Child goes to bed earlier so is able to wake up
Earlier when at parent Bs house.
Child goes to bed earlier so is able to wake up
Earlier when at parent Bs house.