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Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

Are you a complete fool? The cheating that an academic institution is interested in would be academic cheating such as plagiarism or altering research data. Fooling around with your co workers is not on the list. In fact, there is nothing that the admin could do about two tenured faculty fooling around with each other.

Five minutes on Google would prove you wrong. Universities do care about about relationships between faculty members, particularly if they can cause disruption to the academic environment, subject the university to legal liability (direct or indirect authority of one professor over another), etc.... In fact, universities reserve the option to take any action necessary to ensure compliance with the spirit their fraternization policies, including transferring either or both employees to minimize disruption of the work group.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

Are you a complete fool? The cheating that an academic institution is interested in would be academic cheating such as plagiarism or altering research data. Fooling around with your co workers is not on the list. In fact, there is nothing that the admin could do about two tenured faculty fooling around with each other.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know their spouses?

I think people have a right to know that there is a 3rd person in their marriage, putting their health at risk and that their marriage is a sham / facade. It is very humiliating for others to know your spouse is cavorting about while you look like a fool thinking all is well.

If you know the spouse or spouses, I would tell them what you saw.

The cheaters are the ones who have already messed up the marriages / families. Being complicit in the lies, betrayal and deciet isn't something I have any desire to be part of.

There is something very wrong with you.

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

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Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.

You can believe what you want and feeling this way is fine, but you are in the minority. Read the thread, most people think you’d be crazy to be this invested in someone else’s marriage.

I don't mind being the minority when it comes to thinking cheating is wrong. I think it is unfortunate that the majority have no issue with it and accept it and wouldn't even notice two married people they know making out with people not their spouses because it is so common place in their own lives that it doesn't even register. I am happy to be in the minority who doesn't cheat and doesn't encourage others to do so.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.

You can believe what you want and feeling this way is fine, but you are in the minority. Read the thread, most people think you’d be crazy to be this invested in someone else’s marriage.

I don't mind being the minority when it comes to thinking cheating is wrong. I think it is unfortunate that the majority have no issue with it and accept it and wouldn't even notice two married people they know making out with people not their spouses because it is so common place in their own lives that it doesn't even register. I am happy to be in the minority who doesn't cheat and doesn't encourage others to do so.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.

You can believe what you want and feeling this way is fine, but you are in the minority. Read the thread, most people think you’d be crazy to be this invested in someone else’s marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.