It’s often a cover for getting drunk, sneaking out, staying out all night, or having sex. That’s gotta be obvious to people thought right??

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Anonymous wrote:We did. It did keep us from driving after drinking. There was sex too eventually. So, probably all of what you are worried about. At the same time, we were all kids who did well in school and in life afterwards, but who had reasons not to want to be at our parents' houses.

I'm pretty sure my straight son isn't having sex with his straight male friend.

He’s not staying with the friend…..

He is. I’m friends with the mom. They live out in the boonies and the only car is the mom’s car. The dogs go crazy whenever a car drives up in the driveway. So unless the boys are hiking out of there on foot (it would take 3-4 hrs to even reach anywhere) they are there all night. They play video games and watch movies.

One of my twins (boy) did and the other did not (also boy.) Often it was at our house and the just stayed up late playing video games and eating snacks.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid them. Nothing good happens at a HS sleepover

+1
I only had a sleepover when I told my mom I was at Larla's but was really at my BF's....

Not all kids have access to a car.

Why do you need a car to get to your bf house?

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Anonymous wrote:We did. It did keep us from driving after drinking. There was sex too eventually. So, probably all of what you are worried about. At the same time, we were all kids who did well in school and in life afterwards, but who had reasons not to want to be at our parents' houses.

I'm pretty sure my straight son isn't having sex with his straight male friend.

He’s not staying with the friend…..

Nope

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I told my parents I was going to a sleeping over in high school, I was usually out drinking and crashing with the friend whose parents didn’t care when we rolled in.

Yes but now we all have tracking on our kids phones.
My recent HS graduate would do age sleelovers a year mainly because they didn’t want to be driving home at 2. Too grades too college no boyfriend no drinking/drigs….they are just hanging out. Honestly if she had a hard seltzer on a Saturday night then slept in her friends basement, I don’t even care. She’s a very good kid and her friends are nice.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid them. Nothing good happens at a HS sleepover

+1
I only had a sleepover when I told my mom I was at Larla's but was really at my BF's....

Not all kids have access to a car.

I can't imagine never staying at my friends houses or vice versa in hs. We did this every weekend! My boys do as well though not as much because they can also socialize via gaming. But when they get to be driving age they tend to crash wherever they are - but they don't call it a "sleepover'. Even my college kid's friends stay the night sometimes when home.

Anonymous wrote:We did. It did keep us from driving after drinking. There was sex too eventually. So, probably all of what you are worried about. At the same time, we were all kids who did well in school and in life afterwards, but who had reasons not to want to be at our parents' houses.

I'm pretty sure my straight son isn't having sex with his straight male friend.

Whenever I told my parents I was going to a sleeping over in high school, I was usually out drinking and crashing with the friend whose parents didn’t care when we rolled in.

IME not the planned sleepovers of MS any more, but still sometimes the last minute text ( “is it okay if I just sleep at jimmy’s tonight”) when they are older hs and already out and about. Almost certainly sometimes related to drinking, but I think also just having fun, being tired, wanting to crash rather than get back in car and drive home

Anonymous wrote:DD never went to a sleepover in high school. No time at all with ECs. But hung out with friends enough. DS is a sophomore and nobody in his friend group has sleepovers.

+1

10th grade DS crashes at friends houses some weekends or before early morning practices. Friends sometimes crash here. Not sleepover per se just parents don’t want kids driving at 1am

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid them. Nothing good happens at a HS sleepover

+1
I only had a sleepover when I told my mom I was at Larla's but was really at my BF's....