Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 17:51     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend was mad that I wasn't in a celebratory mood and thought a party was weird. I think a lot of people just like parties and want you to move on to find someone else so they don't have a friend that is single or worry about you hitting on the married men. That was my experience. There is some benefit to it ans sometimes I wish I had one even though I wasn't up for it. Many divorces are very contentious and you feel very alone and just tired and sad. It helps to have friends around you and something to look forward to in your life after divorce. I'm kind of mixed feelings on it.


This is interesting..can someone explain why some women think that divorced women may hit on their husbands? Men don't think a divorced guy out there is going to hit on their wife. But some women have that weird insecurity and it's bizarre.


It’s because divorce is contagious. It sweeps through social groups.

If anything, the men should be exiling the divorced woman because she’s more likely to be an example for the other women who are in not-healthy marriages. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces.


lol

It’s the selfish, ignorant men who see their divorced male contacts bragging about only one side - the travel, the no wife in the house wanting things clean & tidy, the 50%+ break from the kids, the extra time at the office - who start thinking that’s the ticket!

Then they go all passive aggressive and behave worse than ever, hoping their wives do the divorce paperwork and process for them.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 17:47     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:https://www.cnbc.com/2024/09/07/divorce-parties-reached-an-all-time-high-last-year-heres-why.html

It's unfortunate that we have reached the point that now people are celebrating their divorce


There are two types of parties here:

The selfish narc celebrating freedom from basic spousal and family responsibilities

And,

The abused target celebrating freedom from their ex who could not or wouldn’t not participate in basic spousal and family responsibilities.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 17:30     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:https://www.cnbc.com/2024/09/07/divorce-parties-reached-an-all-time-high-last-year-heres-why.html

It's unfortunate that we have reached the point that now people are celebrating their divorce

Glad you or any of your friends didn’t marry an abusive a-hole
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 17:24     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:True. It’s about solidarity. My friends showed up to my court case in Fairfax VA. It was weird and wonderful— and I will never forget that they took the day off from work to be with me.

Painful too!


Were you in an abusive relationship? If so that's really nice of them.


He filed for full custody. Our kids are older now but we shared custody. He became less intense over time.


Wow he surely was audacious. Its laughable when men file for full custody.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 16:12     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:True. It’s about solidarity. My friends showed up to my court case in Fairfax VA. It was weird and wonderful— and I will never forget that they took the day off from work to be with me.

Painful too!


Were you in an abusive relationship? If so that's really nice of them.


He filed for full custody. Our kids are older now but we shared custody. He became less intense over time.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 16:02     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Marriage is a dying institution all over the world. In some parts of the world the decline is spectacular to say the list.

I am from West Africa and I married at 24 and had a child at 25. Two of my brothers currently aged 32 and 35 are not married and don't have any kids. I have several cousins over 25 not married. This is simply unheard of in my country. In fact this seems to be son accepted that parents no longer push for their children to be married.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 16:00     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend was mad that I wasn't in a celebratory mood and thought a party was weird. I think a lot of people just like parties and want you to move on to find someone else so they don't have a friend that is single or worry about you hitting on the married men. That was my experience. There is some benefit to it ans sometimes I wish I had one even though I wasn't up for it. Many divorces are very contentious and you feel very alone and just tired and sad. It helps to have friends around you and something to look forward to in your life after divorce. I'm kind of mixed feelings on it.


This is interesting..can someone explain why some women think that divorced women may hit on their husbands? Men don't think a divorced guy out there is going to hit on their wife. But some women have that weird insecurity and it's bizarre.


It’s because divorce is contagious. It sweeps through social groups.

If anything, the men should be exiling the divorced woman because she’s more likely to be an example for the other women who are in not-healthy marriages. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces.


I have NEVER seen a stat for that :
B S
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:59     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:True. It’s about solidarity. My friends showed up to my court case in Fairfax VA. It was weird and wonderful— and I will never forget that they took the day off from work to be with me.

Painful too!


Were you in an abusive relationship? If so that's really nice of them.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:50     Subject: Re:Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
It reflects a certain immaturity that almost certainly contributed to the failure of the marriage in the first place.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:49     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:https://www.cnbc.com/2024/09/07/divorce-parties-reached-an-all-time-high-last-year-heres-why.html

It's unfortunate that we have reached the point that now people are celebrating their divorce


Reached the point? This is nothing new.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:46     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend was mad that I wasn't in a celebratory mood and thought a party was weird. I think a lot of people just like parties and want you to move on to find someone else so they don't have a friend that is single or worry about you hitting on the married men. That was my experience. There is some benefit to it ans sometimes I wish I had one even though I wasn't up for it. Many divorces are very contentious and you feel very alone and just tired and sad. It helps to have friends around you and something to look forward to in your life after divorce. I'm kind of mixed feelings on it.


This is interesting..can someone explain why some women think that divorced women may hit on their husbands? Men don't think a divorced guy out there is going to hit on their wife. But some women have that weird insecurity and it's bizarre.


It’s because divorce is contagious. It sweeps through social groups.

If anything, the men should be exiling the divorced woman because she’s more likely to be an example for the other women who are in not-healthy marriages. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:43     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
True. It’s about solidarity. My friends showed up to my court case in Fairfax VA. It was weird and wonderful— and I will never forget that they took the day off from work to be with me.

Painful too!
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:39     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
Anonymous wrote:https://www.cnbc.com/2024/09/07/divorce-parties-reached-an-all-time-high-last-year-heres-why.html

It's unfortunate that we have reached the point that now people are celebrating their divorce


I didn't read your link, but I would be happy to celebrate a friend's divorce, especially if they are getting out of a situation in which they were miserable. We should always celebrate positive changes in our friends' and families' lives.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:36     Subject: Re:Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
I’m going through a divorce. I don’t feel like celebrating, but for people who have been through a protracted, very contentious divorce, I can understand the urge to celebrate that there’s finally a conclusion to the legal battle — not necessarily the marriage itself.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 15:34     Subject: Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
I’m happy if people want to celebrate. I don’t have any interest in a party, but I will breathe a massive sigh of relief once it is official. I didn’t want a divorce, but since it is happening anyway, I just want the miserable process over.