I agree you should skip the wedding.

The quid pro quo is neither the couple or parents can harangue you as to why you are skipping.

Young and dumb just don't give a large gift.

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Anonymous wrote:It either works or it doesn't, but they're young enough if it doesn't and they don't have kids it's a super easy divorce, a freebie basically. Plenty of friends/acquaintances who married right after college, divorced within 1 to 3 years and moved right along.

Due to their religion, divorce is not an option. This is it.

All of my ultra religious young married friends from college got divorced.

Marriage at 22 used to be the norm. What’s wrong with it now?

I mean, train wreck is when you are going to a 23 year old couple with 3 kids under 5 yr old, on their 2nd marriage, no college degree.

How do you know them?

Anonymous wrote:We will be attending a wedding of a 22 year old couple and it feels like a train wreck. They just graduated from college a couple months ago. They are immature and the parents are religious so they were probably pressured. I feel bad that they won’t have a chance to grow up before making this commitment.

Do:

Bride
Groom
Bride's family
Groom's family
Federal and state laws
Religion


Don't:

Bride's dad's third cousin twice removed

I got married at 22. We are doing well. My husband finished law school and has a ses job. I finished medical school. Babies at 29 and 32 so we had plenty of time to grow up together but have kids relatively young. Life is good.

My goodness, they’re not 16.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got engaged at 22 and married at 24 after dating all through college. We're still good 12 years later. Age isn't the only marker of maturity or readiness to get married.

Same here. We lived together immediately after college but didn’t get married until 24. Three kids and almost 20 years later we’re still happy as can be.

DH and I got engaged at 22 and married at 24 after dating all through college. We're still good 12 years later. Age isn't the only marker of maturity or readiness to get married.

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t we just be happy for people?

I'm thinking that is difficult to impossible for OP ...

Anonymous wrote:We will be attending a wedding of a 22 year old couple and it feels like a train wreck. They just graduated from college a couple months ago. They are immature and the parents are religious so they were probably pressured. I feel bad that they won’t have a chance to grow up before making this commitment.

You should probably work at checking your judgment at the door before the wedding.

You sound like a train wreck, tbh.

You should not attend the wedding.

You realize a lot of people get married at 22 right?

What's a train wreck about it, besides it's not what you would choose or what "your people do" or perhaps that they are living a lower socio economic class life in a non-elite bubble?

FWIW I am living in an elite bubble and don't particularly want my kid marrying at 22 but your post is rude.