Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you can or should back into a school’s stated or assumed values. It should probably be the other way around. What does the kid value? Find schools that match that. A kid who is a great fit for Rice probably isn’t going to put Vandy or Duke on the same list. Stop trying to rig the system and instead find real fit.
This, above. Find the right college for the student's
own, actual values and interests, rather than trying to assemble an application tailored to tell a college admissions office what you think it wants to hear.
Seriously. If your kid doesn’t want to read a stack of books, who would you want them to go to school with a crowd of people who like to read stacks of books? A miserable, lonely student is not getting their best grades, making lots of connections, participating as much in class, working closely with professors.
Find a good fit. Look for a place where they are going to thrive.
“My 30 year old son/daughter is rich/accomplished, miserable, bitter, and depressed” is not a flex. You both need to play the long game.