Anonymous wrote:It is tacky, since guest of honor cannot imbibe

DP. I don't think it's tacky, but (puts on Christian Women's Temperance Union sash) I think this is yet another occasion where we've let drinking become the norm when it doesn't make any sense. The mother to be can't drink. It's usually held mid-morning or afternoon.

I'm 50 and grew up in TX and have been to lots of baby showers where alcohol was not served, nor was it expected.

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Non-alcoholic cocktails are all the rage. I would try to get a NA bartender to come and serve fancy, but non-alcoholic, drinks.

Those have soooo many empty calories. No one I know would drink those.

The calorie counters are doing heroin. It is great for keeping the pounds off.

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Anonymous wrote:
Non-alcoholic cocktails are all the rage. I would try to get a NA bartender to come and serve fancy, but non-alcoholic, drinks.

Those have soooo many empty calories. No one I know would drink those.

I have some bad news for you about alcohol.

If you don't like each other, you need alcohol or other intoxicants.

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Strange. My circle of white Americans and various Europeans and Asians don't drink much, and we've had plenty of non-alcoholic parties.

It's hard for me to relate to all of you who think you can't have a party without alcohol.

OP, maybe you can ask the mother-to-be, as well as a few key guests, what they think.

I don’t care if the party doesn’t have alcohol, it just wouldn’t occur to me that it was because the guest of honor is pregnant.

It's not tacky at all, though I think it is nice to have a non-alcoholic option of some sort.

The last baby shower I went to was simply snacks and opening presents. By far the most boring baby shower. Regardless of the drink, make it more fun.

I’ve never been to a baby shower without at least champagne/mimosas. And, honestly, as the mom to be, I’d be a bit embarrassed if the host didn’t offer some type of alcohol.

Obviously, from other responses, it very much depends on your circle but definitely not tacky!

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Anonymous wrote:
Strange. My circle of white Americans and various Europeans and Asians don't drink much, and we've had plenty of non-alcoholic parties.

It's hard for me to relate to all of you who think you can't have a party without alcohol.

OP, maybe you can ask the mother-to-be, as well as a few key guests, what they think.

You can definitely have a great party without alcohol! Just like you can also have a great party that serves alcohol as a courtesy, and for those who wish to partake, and not worry that everyone’s going to overdrink…

Right! You know what isn't fun? A party with a bunch of white American, Europeans, and Asians sitting around judging people who like to have a mimosa at a party.

I have never been to a baby shower with no alcohol. It's tacky to not. I would do mimosas and white wine

It is tacky to serve tasteless wine.

Assuming you know the host would be okay with others drinking. Some people want everyone to suffer like they have to.

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Strange. My circle of white Americans and various Europeans and Asians don't drink much, and we've had plenty of non-alcoholic parties.

It's hard for me to relate to all of you who think you can't have a party without alcohol.

OP, maybe you can ask the mother-to-be, as well as a few key guests, what they think.

Are you this reductive and simplistic in all aspects of your life?

Repeat after me - it's not that we *can't* have a party without alcohol, it's that it's more enjoyable if one can have a glass or two. For one thing, it makes uptight twits who might be in attendance (ahem, PP) more tolerable.

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Non-alcoholic cocktails are all the rage. I would try to get a NA bartender to come and serve fancy, but non-alcoholic, drinks.

Those have soooo many empty calories. No one I know would drink those.

A white wine spritzer or simply serving Champange with a toast to the Mother to Be before the meal is more appropriate. I would never serve hard liquor, red wines, or beer.

Anonymous wrote:
Strange. My circle of white Americans and various Europeans and Asians don't drink much, and we've had plenty of non-alcoholic parties.

It's hard for me to relate to all of you who think you can't have a party without alcohol.

OP, maybe you can ask the mother-to-be, as well as a few key guests, what they think.

You can definitely have a great party without alcohol! Just like you can also have a great party that serves alcohol as a courtesy, and for those who wish to partake, and not worry that everyone’s going to overdrink…