Anonymous wrote:OP, you're being overly dramatic - that's provincial thinking. And it's a mindset other people avoid. They spread their wings and head out into the big, wide world.

It's always why Americans are increasingly lonely and we've seen a collapse of the family unit. Existing as islands in the big, wide world has had disastrous effects on society.

OP, I agree with you. Will push for my kids to stay on this coast. I moved away from home and it has been hard on my parents. My DH is not from the US and he finds the entire system completely insane.

OP, you're being overly dramatic - that's provincial thinking. And it's a mindset other people avoid. They spread their wings and head out into the big, wide world.

Anonymous wrote:My kids will be limited to a direct flight away. And will let them know I want them within the Chicago, DC Boston triangle. Anything beyond that needs a very significant scholarship

Not understanding why say Atlanta is not the same as Chicago.

Especially after seeing what college kids went through during Covid! I’m definitely encouraging DC to stay within 4-5 hours drive.

Just hope he gets in somewhere.

My kids will be limited to a direct flight away. And will let them know I want them within the Chicago, DC Boston triangle. Anything beyond that needs a very significant scholarship

I was strongly encouraged to stay in a not very exciting state, so I went to a flagship about an hour from where I grew up. Then, wanting to finally get out, I went to grad school 4,000 miles away. So if you limit them too much there is that risk as well.

I went to school 8 hours from home, then moved to DC after graduation (2 hours from “home” but my parents met here)

My daughter chose 8 hours, as well. I would have liked her to be a little closer (her 2 other options were 3 and 4 hours away), but I know this is the best school for her. We have extended family not far from her school and I have internet friends who are local, too. She won’t be able to come home often, but she will be fine. And if she chooses to stay near Boston after school, that’s fine by me.

Mine wanted to be a "reasonable" drive from home. 3 hours for one and 4 hours for the other. Both want to stay in the mid Atlantic region. They like it here and have stayed close to HS friends. I'd have supported their going farther if they wanted to (I moved across the country after college) but was happy that they are happy in their home region.

Mine is 20 mins away. I said no more than about 3-4 hrs away because I don't have the money to pay for hotels when he is moving in/out of his dorm. He chose the school that gave him the best FA which is in our city.

I went to school four hours away from home. DC would like to be close enough to come home for the weekend. Our flagship is tops in the area they want to study, so I'd love for them to stay close and save money for undergrad.

Yes! Eldest went to Cali-she loves it 5 years + working there now. Youngest 2 hours away. But if she had wanted West Coast would have said sure. Just happy she’s instate and close

Anonymous wrote:Mine have gone far and I'm more than okay with it. My goal is for them to realize how cool DC is and come back but make sure it is their choice. If they find someplace cooler and stay - we'll visit a lot! It's actually very gratifying to see the independence.

Both of mine are 2,000 miles away, and I'm totally fine with it. We never mentioned a location preference when they were looking at schools. Honestly, we didn't have one. We wanted them to go wherever they thought the right place for them was.

Mine have gone far and I'm more than okay with it. My goal is for them to realize how cool DC is and come back but make sure it is their choice. If they find someplace cooler and stay - we'll visit a lot! It's actually very gratifying to see the independence.

Anonymous wrote:Mine is about 6 hours away but the town has an Amtrak stop. It is so convenient and she actually comes home for long weekends fairly often. Much more relaxing than the long drive!

What school? This is the max my kid would want to go. Looking at schools in CT.