Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just musing to myself about this but would like to chat with others who have went through this or who are going through it.

I have been overweight since about age 10. I have lost 60 pounds in the last year but still need to lose another 40-60.

This is the least I have weighed since college and it has been a very very slow process. I made major lifestyle changes but still have only lost 20 pounds in the past five months. I know that one pound a week is considered sustainable but it is so very hard to be patient.

I also think I have some body dysmorphia as I can barely tell the difference between how I look now and how I looked 60 pounds heavier. Sometimes I get so frustrated at being so unhappy with how I look as it feels like I have done all of this for nothing. Though I really did it for health reasons and all of my health indicators have shown dramatic improvements. But the superficial can still get to me.

The positives - much less stress now about will I fit on things, will people immediately see my weight ahead of anything else. Much less crippling guilt about the way I treat my body.

I don't really have questions, just wanted to talk to other people going through this.

It’s a rough road. I’ve lost about 150lbs over the last 4-5 years. The mind tricks and the mental stress weights on you. The body dysmorphia…I almost regret losing the weight. All the extra skin. The biggest thing is realizing how many life decisions I made because of my weight. Jobs I didn’t go for, schools I didn’t apply to, pictures I didn’t take with my kids and family (that’s a big one). So much regret. I think if I never would’ve lost of weight, these realities would have never been apparent to me. I want to go back to that time. I’ve traded in one obsession (always thinking about food) for another one (weighing myself 3-4 times a day) in trying to make sure I don’t regain.


Then the hate and disdain you have for people. You realize how invisible you were and now being seen, getting attention for the weight loss. People saying “Oh you look so great!” Hell, I though I looked great before.

Again, it’s a tough road.

The hate and disdain for people is real. I became the biggest misanthrope because of losing weight. It really bothers me how much my value changed (suddenly people were nice and friendly, how you suddenly become worthy of better treatment!). It was just appalling. I deeply hate people now.