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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those who kids go to bed after you, do your kids wake up on their own? My son is starting 9th grade and struggles to get to bed at a reasonable time and to wake up on his own. I’d like to get him to start figuring this out but it’s been a real struggle.

I tell mine to go to bed and enforce it.

How do you enforce a teen goes to sleep? You force their eyes closed?? Lay in their bed until they’re asleep like a toddler?

NP - we also enforce a 10pm bedtime for our seventh grader. That means making sure the lights are out in her room. If she turns them back on, we turn them off. That doesn't happen more than twice. She's not allowed to have devices in her bedroom. She gets up around 7:15am.

Sleep is so important for kids, including adolescents. So, yeah, we're willing to be rigid about it. We've been rigid about it since they were babies, so they're used to it by now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those who kids go to bed after you, do your kids wake up on their own? My son is starting 9th grade and struggles to get to bed at a reasonable time and to wake up on his own. I’d like to get him to start figuring this out but it’s been a real struggle.

I tell mine to go to bed and enforce it.

How do you enforce a teen goes to sleep? You force their eyes closed?? Lay in their bed until they’re asleep like a toddler?

Two HS....

In bed b/t 9:30 and 10:30. Up between 6 and 6:40. They are up on their own, one with an alarm, one without. If it's past 6:40, I wake them up.

One is an athlete which translates to an earlier fall asleep time.

My two high schoolers are in bed by 9:30 or 10p. Alarms go off at 6:15a. They don’t fight it, they know they feel better with more sleep.

MS: 9-10
HS: varies 9-12am

Get themselves up, ready, and out the door for school like they have been since elementary.

HS: usually goes to bed between 8-9 on school nights and gets up around 5 am. He’s always prioritized sleep.
MS: bed at 10 and up at 7.

Anonymous wrote:Body clock: teens sleep later. Start school later!

No, put your kids to bed earlier. Those of our kids who have activities often don't get home till late. Starting school later will just mean activities get pushed back later and they go to bed even later. Parenting must be hard for you.

HS 8-6 can't function without at least 10 hours of sleep
MS 8-645
ES 8-8

They all wake up on their own with an alarm clock.

Anonymous wrote:For those who kids go to bed after you, do your kids wake up on their own? My son is starting 9th grade and struggles to get to bed at a reasonable time and to wake up on his own. I’d like to get him to start figuring this out but it’s been a real struggle.

Mine gets up, makes his breakfast and lunch and gets out of the door and has done since sixth grade. Totally recommend it.

Body clock: teens sleep later. Start school later!

No idea. I go to bed 11ish and sometimes my kids (twins starting Jr year) are asleep, sometimes talking on the phone.

We are focused on preparing them to be adults so they are responsible for getting themselves up and to school on time. If they take care of their responsibilities, we will not micromanage. If they don't, they lose their phone for 24 hours. We implemented this plan a year ago and it has been very effective. They know we mean business (loss of phone goes for chores and other responsibilities as well). They are learning how to manage their time and themselves through natural consequences. Stay up until 2am on TikTok and you will likely sleep through your alarm or feel exhausted all day at school!

In two years they may be moving away to school. Important for them to learn now how to be responsible. And, one of my kids has ADHD with some serious exec function challenges. After years of struggling to figure out how to get him more organized, loss of phone has been a very powerful motivator for him to figure some things out for himself, which gives me confidence that he will be better prepared for whatever is next for him after high school.

Anonymous wrote:For those who kids go to bed after you, do your kids wake up on their own? My son is starting 9th grade and struggles to get to bed at a reasonable time and to wake up on his own. I’d like to get him to start figuring this out but it’s been a real struggle.

Yes. Get a loud alarm. Put away from bed until they get.

Anonymous wrote:For those who kids go to bed after you, do your kids wake up on their own? My son is starting 9th grade and struggles to get to bed at a reasonable time and to wake up on his own. I’d like to get him to start figuring this out but it’s been a real struggle.

Some day yes, other days I have to wake him up.

Anonymous wrote:Bedtime whenever work homework is done
Wake up is typically before 7am
HS

your kids get homework?

Bedtime whenever work homework is done
Wake up is typically before 7am
HS