Anonymous
08/31/2024 21:43
Subject: Re:What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. The reason the dress matters is because we are all pretty judgy these days and private schools probably always have been.
Most people try to be neutral so that their clothes don’t slot them into a stereotype before they’ve found their peeps.
Can’t go wrong with business casual.
Lily Pulitzer can be off putting. It’s offers up a country club clueless vibe.
The women who try too hard by wearing expensive designers to meet and greet also stereotype themselves.
It’s especially déclassé to talk about what you’re wearing.
Lily probably would have been the most like my everyday self since that is what we wear to our country club pool.
I ended up wearing a dressy black dress and probably tried harder than others.
I was surprised how old and frumpy most of the moms were. They definitely came not caring.
OMG
Anonymous
08/31/2024 17:46
Subject: Re:What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. The reason the dress matters is because we are all pretty judgy these days and private schools probably always have been.
Most people try to be neutral so that their clothes don’t slot them into a stereotype before they’ve found their peeps.
Can’t go wrong with business casual.
Lily Pulitzer can be off putting. It’s offers up a country club clueless vibe.
The women who try too hard by wearing expensive designers to meet and greet also stereotype themselves.
It’s especially déclassé to talk about what you’re wearing.
Lily probably would have been the most like my everyday self since that is what we wear to our country club pool.
I ended up wearing a dressy black dress and probably tried harder than others.
I was surprised how old and frumpy most of the moms were. They definitely came not caring.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 16:33
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:I would do A also. Simple dress. Why stand out.
A or B.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 15:55
Subject: Re:What to wear to parent social
Let’s be real. The reason the dress matters is because we are all pretty judgy these days and private schools probably always have been.
Most people try to be neutral so that their clothes don’t slot them into a stereotype before they’ve found their peeps.
Can’t go wrong with business casual.
Lily Pulitzer can be off putting. It’s offers up a country club clueless vibe.
The women who try too hard by wearing expensive designers to meet and greet also stereotype themselves.
It’s especially déclassé to talk about what you’re wearing.
Most people try to be neutral so that their clothes don’t slot them into a stereotype before they’ve found their peeps.
Can’t go wrong with business casual.
Lily Pulitzer can be off putting. It’s offers up a country club clueless vibe.
The women who try too hard by wearing expensive designers to meet and greet also stereotype themselves.
It’s especially déclassé to talk about what you’re wearing.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 09:09
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Nice pants and top. I was you last year. People wore all sorts of things.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 08:45
Subject: Re:What to wear to parent social
C. Is if you want to start an affair. AO is an affair dog whistle.
I’d go with what you would wear to a work event where you want to be treated professionally.
I’d go with what you would wear to a work event where you want to be treated professionally.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 07:14
Subject: Re:What to wear to parent social
Many years ago my immigrant parents were going to a welcome event at my fancy private girls school where I was a scholarship student. I remember how much they agonized about how they would look and what they would say. They also didn't have anyone to ask for guidance. I'm not saying in any way that this is a similar reason for why OP posted. But I want to make the point that obviously some people do care, and I don't see the point in denigrating OP's post or this thread. OP wanted some guidance (and it doesn't matter why) and it's great that there are some nice and well intentioned people who responded sincerely. I bet that there are other people who may read this thread and find it helpful, too. It's a lot easier to be interesting and not a jerk when you're comfortable or confident with yourself and a lot of times dressing for the environment makes a difference. Just because YOU don't see the point and you don't think anyone would care, doesn't mean that OP or someone else out there won't find this thread meaningful and helpful. I bet my mom would've really appreciated seeing advice like this 25 year ago.
Thank you!
Anonymous
08/31/2024 01:31
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.
Many years ago my immigrant parents were going to a welcome event at my fancy private girls school where I was a scholarship student. I remember how much they agonized about how they would look and what they would say. They also didn't have anyone to ask for guidance. I'm not saying in any way that this is a similar reason for why OP posted. But I want to make the point that obviously some people do care, and I don't see the point in denigrating OP's post or this thread. OP wanted some guidance (and it doesn't matter why) and it's great that there are some nice and well intentioned people who responded sincerely. I bet that there are other people who may read this thread and find it helpful, too. It's a lot easier to be interesting and not a jerk when you're comfortable or confident with yourself and a lot of times dressing for the environment makes a difference. Just because YOU don't see the point and you don't think anyone would care, doesn't mean that OP or someone else out there won't find this thread meaningful and helpful. I bet my mom would've really appreciated seeing advice like this 25 year ago.
+1. I found this post helpful. A number of us, new parents to a school, were just discussing this trying to figure it out recently.
Anonymous
08/21/2024 10:40
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.
Many years ago my immigrant parents were going to a welcome event at my fancy private girls school where I was a scholarship student. I remember how much they agonized about how they would look and what they would say. They also didn't have anyone to ask for guidance. I'm not saying in any way that this is a similar reason for why OP posted. But I want to make the point that obviously some people do care, and I don't see the point in denigrating OP's post or this thread. OP wanted some guidance (and it doesn't matter why) and it's great that there are some nice and well intentioned people who responded sincerely. I bet that there are other people who may read this thread and find it helpful, too. It's a lot easier to be interesting and not a jerk when you're comfortable or confident with yourself and a lot of times dressing for the environment makes a difference. Just because YOU don't see the point and you don't think anyone would care, doesn't mean that OP or someone else out there won't find this thread meaningful and helpful. I bet my mom would've really appreciated seeing advice like this 25 year ago.
Thank you for this. Social animals are social and wondering what to wear when meeting your new community isn't weird at all.
Anonymous
08/21/2024 10:33
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.
Many years ago my immigrant parents were going to a welcome event at my fancy private girls school where I was a scholarship student. I remember how much they agonized about how they would look and what they would say. They also didn't have anyone to ask for guidance. I'm not saying in any way that this is a similar reason for why OP posted. But I want to make the point that obviously some people do care, and I don't see the point in denigrating OP's post or this thread. OP wanted some guidance (and it doesn't matter why) and it's great that there are some nice and well intentioned people who responded sincerely. I bet that there are other people who may read this thread and find it helpful, too. It's a lot easier to be interesting and not a jerk when you're comfortable or confident with yourself and a lot of times dressing for the environment makes a difference. Just because YOU don't see the point and you don't think anyone would care, doesn't mean that OP or someone else out there won't find this thread meaningful and helpful. I bet my mom would've really appreciated seeing advice like this 25 year ago.
Anonymous
08/20/2024 13:49
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.
+1
Anonymous
08/20/2024 13:42
Subject: What to wear to parent social
Whatever you think represents your true self.
Anonymous
08/20/2024 13:26
Subject: What to wear to parent social
I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.
Anonymous
08/20/2024 12:15
Subject: What to wear to parent social
I try to wear a nice dress that is versatile to be dressed up/down (but not a cocktail dress and not a fully casual summer sundress style). Some people do come in more business-style dress attire, but I think you should wear what is more natural for you.
DH wears dress shirt and pants. Adds tie when more formal and coat if even more formal. But at welcome family event at our schools he'd probably wear tie with no jacket.
That said - if it's a formal school with uniforms, I'd go more formal (leaning business style dress for you and with jacket for DH).
DH wears dress shirt and pants. Adds tie when more formal and coat if even more formal. But at welcome family event at our schools he'd probably wear tie with no jacket.
That said - if it's a formal school with uniforms, I'd go more formal (leaning business style dress for you and with jacket for DH).
Anonymous
08/20/2024 11:30
Subject: What to wear to parent social
D but with linen pants.