Anonymous wrote:Life is hard. Inflation hit us all.

Give what you can but if you can give money, cash, not gift cards. Like 2 week pay.
Some families gives the whole month pay. Others 2 weeks, others 3 weeks

Ok nanny.

Life is hard. Inflation hit us all.

Give what you can but if you can give money, cash, not gift cards. Like 2 week pay.
Some families gives the whole month pay. Others 2 weeks, others 3 weeks

My nannies have always appreciated a photo of her and the kids. A gift card or cash is always nice too.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

Because she carefully attended to your children, enabled you to keep advancing in your own job, and was a "wonderful nanny."

Not necessary if you paid her well on the books and gave her an annual bonus.

Agreed. You don’t give a weeks salary after a year. Make it clear you’re always available as a reference, maybe give her a nice photo of her with the boys, thank you notes from them & a gift card to somewhere you know she could use

Disagree. You actually DO give a week's salary after a year, whether it's as a bonus for a nanny continuing or as a parting gift.

Did OP say she didn't get a holiday bonus? That is one week of pay.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

Because she carefully attended to your children, enabled you to keep advancing in your own job, and was a "wonderful nanny."

Not necessary if you paid her well on the books and gave her an annual bonus.

Agreed. You don’t give a weeks salary after a year. Make it clear you’re always available as a reference, maybe give her a nice photo of her with the boys, thank you notes from them & a gift card to somewhere you know she could use

Disagree. You actually DO give a week's salary after a year, whether it's as a bonus for a nanny continuing or as a parting gift.

Anonymous wrote:Did you let her use all her 2 week vacation?

That's the law.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

The nanny is raising the kids and is not paid well.

Not you again. 🙄

Anonymous wrote:Don’t expect her to come babysit for date nights. It’s standard to give a week’s pay as a parting gift

So this is expected with a week of pay? News to all the nannies who don't expect there to be a post-employment obligation.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

The nanny is raising the kids and is not paid well.

“Paid well” is relative. We as a society have decided that, in general, median gross annual salary for a nanny is between $45k and $75k. Honestly for an occupation that has no educational requirements, no certifications and no professional exams, I’d say nannies are paid quite well. Especially compared to other domestic caregivers (have you seen how little daycare workers, home health aides, etc make?!).

When talking pay, we need to separate out the fact that nannies “raise the kids”. (Which obviously is hyperbolic, dismissive of working mothers, and honestly a bit misogynistic). Pediatricians literally save lives, yet we as a society pay plastic surgeons more. See also, Teachers. Police officers. Firefighters. Yes, nannying (or “raising children” if you prefer) is a noble and important job, but market rate is never going to be determined based on nannies’ intangible contributions.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

The nanny is raising the kids and is not paid well.

Don’t expect her to come babysit for date nights. It’s standard to give a week’s pay as a parting gift

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

Sometimes it feels like nannies want to be treated like corporate professionals - two weeks paid vacation, sick leave, annual bonuses, healthcare stipend, etc. If that’s how you set it up, then - just like in a corporate job - the nanny shouldn’t get a bonus when leaving. Literally no other jobs do that.

But if it was more of a traditional domestic job - not great pay, not a lot of benefits - then I do think 1 weeks pay is a nice parting gift.

Agree. I would've given a $100 extra in a card and called it a day.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

Sometimes it feels like nannies want to be treated like corporate professionals - two weeks paid vacation, sick leave, annual bonuses, healthcare stipend, etc. If that’s how you set it up, then - just like in a corporate job - the nanny shouldn’t get a bonus when leaving. Literally no other jobs do that.

But if it was more of a traditional domestic job - not great pay, not a lot of benefits - then I do think 1 weeks pay is a nice parting gift.

Did you let her use all her 2 week vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have left several jobs on mutual terms, and my bosses have MAYBE had cookies or a modest happy hour in the break room to wish me well and say goodbye. Why a week's pay for nannies? That's more than $1,000. It just seems like a lot to me.

Because she carefully attended to your children, enabled you to keep advancing in your own job, and was a "wonderful nanny."

Not necessary if you paid her well on the books and gave her an annual bonus.

Agreed. You don’t give a weeks salary after a year. Make it clear you’re always available as a reference, maybe give her a nice photo of her with the boys, thank you notes from them & a gift card to somewhere you know she could use