OP, have you ever heard the term “playing pocket pool”? This is why men are not supposed to keep their hands down their pants. It’s a little crude of your dad but it’s not inappropriate to tell your son not to fondle himself. Because that’s what it looks like.

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

But this isn’t even inappropriate. OP is just weird.

I agree that OP is overreacting but if you think about what the grandfather said “what’s the score” after already telling the son what that meant, ( what’s the score of playing with your balls) … It is a tad inappropriate. He really shouldn’t be talking to his grandson about juggling his balls.

Is it inappropriate to tell a kid to stop picking their nose or scratching their butt in public?

I think this is more akin to a girl, scratching her crotch, and someone asking her how it smells or if she has crabs. A private part is much different than a nose

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

But this isn’t even inappropriate. OP is just weird.

I agree that OP is overreacting but if you think about what the grandfather said “what’s the score” after already telling the son what that meant, ( what’s the score of playing with your balls) … It is a tad inappropriate. He really shouldn’t be talking to his grandson about juggling his balls.

Is it inappropriate to tell a kid to stop picking their nose or scratching their butt in public?

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

But this isn’t even inappropriate. OP is just weird.

I agree that OP is overreacting but if you think about what the grandfather said “what’s the score” after already telling the son what that meant, ( what’s the score of playing with your balls) … It is a tad inappropriate. He really shouldn’t be talking to his grandson about juggling his balls.

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

But this isn’t even inappropriate. OP is just weird.

+1

Maybe he is saying inappropriate things but this is not.

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

But this isn’t even inappropriate. OP is just weird.

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Anonymous wrote:“Dad, knock it off”

It seems like you have two choices: (1) do what the poster above said or (2) say to your son that hands in pockets is not good in formal settings so take that advice and ignore the other stuff.

You are adding you baggage to this situation in a way that’s not helpful for your son.

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Anonymous wrote:You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Op mentioned that her own grandfather said inappropriate things to her. I think that's influencing her reaction.

If it bothers your son so much he’ll get his hands out of his pockets around Grandpa. Your anger is bizarre and inappropriate over this minor thing said to a 14 yr old who is in complete control of his behavior. Are you ok?

You can ask your dad not to say it because you find it inappropriate, sure, but not certain why you are as angry as you are. My son would think it was funny if my dad said this to him, but they have a close and informal relationship. I am guessing it has more to do with interactions you had with your dad in the past.

Also, my son is 14 and works as a referee, and has to tuck in his shirt etc., so 14 year olds do have jobs that require some minimal dress/decorum. Doesn't pertain to you feeling your dad made a sexually inappropriate comment, but no idea why you think 14 year olds don't have jobs.

Your dad is right. I wouldn’t hire someone doing that and I wouldn’t want a kid like that around my daughters. Why not curb a bad habit? You’re a problem Op. hysterical and will let your son continue things without correcting them. No wonder he has anxiety. Limits and guidance make kids stronger.

Btw I worked for a guy who used to put his hand down his pants in meetings. That fact made it to the WSJ.

Anonymous wrote:Could be he was playing with himself and dad is not wrong but mom is. Consider that at least for a minute.

+1

This kid is 14 not 8. He should be more body aware.

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Anonymous wrote:“Dad, knock it off”

It seems like you have two choices: (1) do what the poster above said or (2) say to your son that hands in pockets is not good in formal settings so take that advice and ignore the other stuff.

You are adding you baggage to this situation in a way that’s not helpful for your son.

DP- agree.

Could be he was playing with himself and dad is not wrong but mom is. Consider that at least for a minute.

Anonymous wrote:“Dad, knock it off”

It seems like you have two choices: (1) do what the poster above said or (2) say to your son that hands in pockets is not good in formal settings so take that advice and ignore the other stuff.

You are adding you baggage to this situation in a way that’s not helpful for your son.