Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:14
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
He's suffering from depression. It is clear as day based on your posts.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:12
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Don't have a baby with someone you don't love or respect, seriously wtf.
If you want to be a mother, one thing you need to realize is your CHILD has to come first. Choosing to bring a child into an unstable environment that will bring strife and struggle is NOT putting your child first. Stop being selfish for once and think about the future baby, please.
If you want to be a mother, one thing you need to realize is your CHILD has to come first. Choosing to bring a child into an unstable environment that will bring strife and struggle is NOT putting your child first. Stop being selfish for once and think about the future baby, please.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:12
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is OP.
He hates working. He says we have all been brainwashed to be working on spreadsheets all day. He is free and is not doing that!
He launched a consulting business a few years ago. He doesn’t do active business development or networking. He just sits in his room playing video games and doing online RPGs meanwhile he has brought in 30k this year and 100k last year.
I’m so tired of him and his relaxed schedule. He goes to sleep at 3 am and wakes up at 11 am. He takes a nap at 3 pm. He becomes indignant when I ask him to get a job and says he already has a job and I’m abusing him.
He has no savings. No plans. No retirement. He doesn’t even have money to support a baby.
Meanwhile I’m paying for his health instance and preparing for IVf transfer. I make 110k. I’m so stressed. How will we make this work as he refuses to do anything to increase his income or work.
Do not have a child with this guy. Not unless you're prepared to live like a single parent.
Living as a single parent would/will be easier than supporting his lazy ass.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:12
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Same op same. I thought he had discipline and drive it seemed like he did, but not at all.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:11
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:This is OP.
He hates working. He says we have all been brainwashed to be working on spreadsheets all day. He is free and is not doing that!
He launched a consulting business a few years ago. He doesn’t do active business development or networking. He just sits in his room playing video games and doing online RPGs meanwhile he has brought in 30k this year and 100k last year.
I’m so tired of him and his relaxed schedule. He goes to sleep at 3 am and wakes up at 11 am. He takes a nap at 3 pm. He becomes indignant when I ask him to get a job and says he already has a job and I’m abusing him.
He has no savings. No plans. No retirement. He doesn’t even have money to support a baby.
Meanwhile I’m paying for his health instance and preparing for IVf transfer. I make 110k. I’m so stressed. How will we make this work as he refuses to do anything to increase his income or work.
Do not have a child with this guy. Not unless you're prepared to live like a single parent.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:06
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:And I can’t take it anymore.
It’s killing my love and respect for him. How can he be a husband and be so lazy??
Same here. I'm trying to... wrap my head around it. Married almost 26 years. It's made worse by the fact that I have a disability that has decreased my mobility and energy a lot and I can NOT keep up on my own.
I'm really not sure if he's always been this lazy or if I just automatically did more.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 11:02
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Considering that you know full well who this guy is, why do you think it's a good idea to have kids with him?
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:45
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:How old are you?
I’m not going to say “divorce now!” But everything you are complaining about will likely get 100 times worse before it gets better, and that’s if you guys are both on board with working on it, with a kid in the mix.
There is an opportunity to get out now.
Is this the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? If there is any doubt in your heart then seriously consider all options before plowing through with IVF.
Also, what do you want motherhood to look like? Do you want the flexibility to stay home or work part time at any point to really be with kid? This will not be possible with a partner that you feel brings you more stress than not.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:43
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
How old are you?
I’m not going to say “divorce now!” But everything you are complaining about will likely get 100 times worse before it gets better, and that’s if you guys are both on board with working on it, with a kid in the mix.
There is an opportunity to get out now.
Is this the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? If there is any doubt in your heart then seriously consider all options before plowing through with IVF.
I’m not going to say “divorce now!” But everything you are complaining about will likely get 100 times worse before it gets better, and that’s if you guys are both on board with working on it, with a kid in the mix.
There is an opportunity to get out now.
Is this the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? If there is any doubt in your heart then seriously consider all options before plowing through with IVF.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:35
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
My guess is that you’ve changed and he hasn’t.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:20
Subject: Re:My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:This is OP.
He hates working. He says we have all been brainwashed to be working on spreadsheets all day. He is free and is not doing that!
He launched a consulting business a few years ago. He doesn’t do active business development or networking. He just sits in his room playing video games and doing online RPGs meanwhile he has brought in 30k this year and 100k last year.
I’m so tired of him and his relaxed schedule. He goes to sleep at 3 am and wakes up at 11 am. He takes a nap at 3 pm. He becomes indignant when I ask him to get a job and says he already has a job and I’m abusing him.
He has no savings. No plans. No retirement. He doesn’t even have money to support a baby.
Meanwhile I’m paying for his health instance and preparing for IVf transfer. I make 110k. I’m so stressed. How will we make this work as he refuses to do anything to increase his income or work.
WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU WANT A CHILD WITH HIM????? You are a delusional lady. This is a 100% a you problem as you are enabling him.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:18
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:You knew what you were getting into. If you didn’t, shame on you.
winner for most useless post!
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:17
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Most people hate working.
If he's playing video games all day, sounds like he's depressed. Deal with the symptoms and don't label this laziness.
If he's playing video games all day, sounds like he's depressed. Deal with the symptoms and don't label this laziness.
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:15
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:And I can’t take it anymore.
It’s killing my love and respect for him. How can he be a husband and be so lazy??
Did you not meet him before wedding?
Anonymous
08/08/2024 10:07
Subject: My husband has absolutely 0 ambition or discipline
Anonymous wrote:Can you elaborate on this? It's hard to give advice without specific examples. Are there certain things he's more ambitious about than others?
Agree. This post is odd and not saying much of anything